What we all experience and call pain actually has many forms. When we experience an emotion that exists in our reality, that causes us discomfort and distress, and the feelings of this emotion reflected in our body, without adding meaning, judgment or thought, we call this main pain or primary pain. For example, real pain is the unpleasant sensations that arise when we directly feel the sensations in the aching part of our body, and these are never constant and change from moment to moment. It is the state of suffering that exists before any reaction or meaning is given to pain or suffering. Or, when we experience anxiety by paying attention only to physical sensations and without adding thoughts, we directly experience the pain that anxiety causes us and we call this primary pain. So when do we turn pain into suffering? When we try not to include these primary feelings that arise for us in our awareness, when we try to escape from unpleasant feelings, when we try to act as if they do not exist, or perhaps when we feel anger towards them, a whole new dimension of pain emerges, which we call secondary pain/suffering. Producing secondary pain; They are the emotions that arise in the face of the main pain/feeling/experience and our reactions to this pain; Frustration, anger, ignoring, opposition, resistance, etc. Although these are all understandable states, what we do when we do this is to resist and fight against the primary pain. On the one hand, the main feelings that are unpleasant, perhaps painful, and on the other hand, a second dimension added to it; painful frustration, resistance, suffering..
The good news: with conscious and compassionate awareness, we can soften these experiences/reactions and stop fighting. Just by bringing our attention back to the breath, the body, and the core feelings in flow in the moment. We can experience these feelings directly, without attaching any meaning to them, without analyzing them, judging them, or questioning them. His feelings at that moment; physical and emotional, we can accept the thought without involving it. In my next article, I will explain how we can experience and relax our difficult emotions and pain without turning it into suffering.
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