Some people are in a constant state of anxiety when they are around other people. Over time, this feeling becomes a part of them. Although the likes or positive words directed towards them in the community provide relief in a short time, their anxiety continues in the long term. People's childhood experiences are extremely effective in the formation of these feelings. The presence of restrictive, overprotective, rejecting, inconsistent and punitive parental attitudes in individuals' childhood is noteworthy. When a child does not receive respect and love from his/her parents, over time the child begins to feel lonely and this may cause him/her to be afraid of people or to become completely distant from people in later ages. Even if he receives the love he could not receive in his childhood from the people around him in the future, he may think that he is not worthy of it. When people begin to notice these situations in themselves, they seek to get rid of these feelings of fear and guilt. They feel that they have to love those around them. The reason why they feel this way is that even though they did not receive love from their parents as a child, the thought of "I have to love them" continues to have an effect. Even when trying to love someone around him, he may be afraid of them, but he tries to hide this situation from him by developing some kind of defense mechanism for himself because he thinks that he will be harmed. In life, a person may be afraid of someone, but the point here is that he experiences the same feelings towards people he does not know.
Everyone has troubled and problematic periods in their childhood. Children experience negative emotions as well as positive emotions. The important thing is to accept the existence of these negative emotions and not to cover them up or pretend they never happened. We need to develop our ability to love people and to cope with our problems. Accepting that negative things do not happen in our lives or acting as if we are always happy and have no fears or anxiety in life does not make us who we are.
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