The sentence "What if I say something wrong or incomplete and my face turns red again" can cause problems in a person's education, work, social life, and this anxiety can cause the person to not be able to use his existing potential. The main reason for this anxiety is not what other people think about the person, but actually the whole of the person's own negative feelings and thoughts. Danger is not actually far away, but the feeling within the person.
When we are stressed, guilty, anxious, excited or ashamed, the adrenaline hormone secreted in the body causes the body temperature to increase and stimulates the sympathetic nervous system, dilating the blood vessels near the surface of the skin and increasing the blood flow. sends it to the face area. Physically, people with social anxiety disorder; While it manifests itself in the form of facial flushing, sweating, and accelerated heartbeat, in the dimension of thought; It manifests itself with negative thoughts such as “I am embarrassed”, “Everyone will make fun of me”, “If I say the wrong thing, I will be humiliated”, and in terms of behavior; It manifests itself in the form of avoiding activities that will reveal oneself in society.
When the teacher asks a question, the child cannot raise his hand to the question he knows because of the concern of "What if I answer wrong?", while the adolescent cannot socialize with the concern of "What if I say the wrong thing in the circle of friends, I will be ostracized". An adult may experience difficulties in business life with the anxiety of "What if I make a presentation incompletely and they think I'm incompetent", "What if they don't like what I say", "What if I say the wrong thing and embarrass everyone", and the person cannot use his existing potential in a positive way. In order to prevent this situation from occurring, he isolates himself from the things he wants to do, and in the situations he has to do, he feels nervous and will make mistakes at any moment, people will evaluate him, he will be thought negatively about him and he will blush, and as a result, he will be humiliated, judged and disgraced in front of people. Even if this hypothesis does not come true, the person believes that this situation will be certain.
In the formation of facial redness; For example, when a child who is verbal during his school years makes a mistake and says the wrong thing and is made fun of in the classroom, He/she may perceive the event he/she is experiencing as a traumatic experience and isolates himself/herself from the outside environment in order to prevent the same event from recurring, or even in adult life, when he/she has to make a presentation, past experiences come to life, causing blushing and anxiety. And also; The attitude of the family also plays an important role in childhood. Parents' timid nature, punitive parental attitudes, parents putting pressure on the child with the concern that something will happen to their child if they are not with them due to their own fear of separation, overly protective or rejecting family attitudes, strict parenting models or parents seeking perfection telling the child, "You should not make any mistakes." ", "If you make a mistake, you will be punished", the child becomes afraid of making mistakes and in order not to make a mistake, he experiences anxiety such as "Will I make a mistake?", "Will I be punished if I do something wrong?" ” may cause anxiety. There are underlying perfectionist feelings and the anxiety of "Everything must be perfect" makes the person afraid of making mistakes. Making a mistake or being incomplete in the work done is equivalent to the work not being perfect, and for these people, a work done incompletely or incorrectly does not receive approval from the other party and is considered unappreciated.
How Can I Deal with Face Redness?
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When you experience an event that causes you to blush, be aware of your current emotions and find the root of these emotions and confront them. The thought of thinking is one of the factors that cause this situation.
Be aware of your negative thoughts. Try to get away from thoughts such as "If I make a mistake, I will be disgraced", "If I say the wrong thing, I will be humiliated", "If I say something wrong, it will make me worthless in the eyes of others"... work.
Do relaxation exercises before entering an environment that you know will create anxiety.
Know your strengths and weaknesses. Just accept that you are not powerless. Focus on successful areas in your life.
Stop reading people's minds. The mind you are trying to read is not the other person's mind, but your own. It creates your thoughts.
If this situation negatively affects your daily functioning, social relations, work, education life, do not hesitate to get psychological support.
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