When I saw 22-year-old women, mothers of 4 children, in Kayseri, in the heart of Anatolia, where I went for compulsory service in the 90s, my eyes widened with astonishment! It still continues, and it seems it will continue. They turn into broken-down mothers-in-law at the age of 40. An example of the tiredness of early marriage is the proverb: “the fabric on the chest never wears out.” The fabric in question is, of course, young girls.
Although many things have changed in Istanbul, where I have returned in the last 5 years, some results are the same. She was a gorgeous 24-year-old young girl, she was engaged and she wanted her fiancée to know about the step he was taking, she was jealous and she found it natural. I was thinking in my mind, "What will this young lady, who is so young and beautiful and does not trust herself or her partner, do at the ages of 34, 44, 54?" He started to explain.
He had 4 long and close relationships between the ages of 14-24. He experienced being cheated on when he was 14 years old. Before his trauma was treated, he set sail for new ones. She experienced the "trauma of being cheated on" when she was very young, which adult women in their 30s, 50s and 70s cannot bear, and she couldn't even complain. I have watched countless times how deceived women lose 8-10 kg and get lost in their clothes, while depressed people lose a few kilos.
Cruel, early relationships wear out children. More counseling services should be provided to young people.
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