Cycle of Violence

In 2019, 474 femicides were committed. According to the data of the “Research on Domestic Violence Against Women in Turkey” conducted in 2009, the rate of women who have suffered at least one type of physical or sexual violence is 42%. Almost one in every two women is subjected to violence. The repetitive acts of violence seen in domestic violence turn into a cycle: The Cycle of Violence. The continuation of repetitive and dangerous acts of violence by becoming a cycle is called the cycle of violence. So what makes up this cycle? Why can't people break this cycle despite being subjected to violence? Although physical violence is the first thing that comes to mind when it comes to violence, there are other types of violence that seem very common. In addition to the types of violence I shared in the Post, "Digital or Virtual Violence", a product of developing technology and the world, has also emerged. But I want to cover this in another post. So, what can we do if we experience violence or know someone who has been abused? Who should we call? Let's discuss these questions today in the purple posts. I'd love to read your comments on this as well.

Cycle of Violence
Why do people keep looping?
Types of violence
What can we do?

Cycle of Violence

Cycle of Violence is the continuation of repetitive and dangerous acts of violence. The cycle of violence consists of 3 stages:

Rising of tension: The perpetrator creates tension. Argues about petty matters, shows jealousy, has an angry mood, tries to control his partner, and uses psychological violence. Alcohol use may also occur.

Violence: The perpetrator cannot control his anger and inflicts physical violence on his partner. The extent of the violence can vary. His partner may be injured or even in danger of death. The partner, on the other hand, makes excuses after committing physical violence.

Honeymoon: The perpetrator regrets what he has done and tries to win the heart of his partner. Trying to win her back by receiving gifts, being kind, trying to convince her that she won't do it again. works. The partner also wants to believe in these attitudes and behaviors; however, the honeymoon period only lasts until the next tension rises.

Why do people continue to stay in this cycle?

Cultural factors: Gender inequality, ingrained in our language proverbs and idioms, stereotyped attitudes towards women, patriarchal beliefs, stereotyped gender roles, unawareness of legal rights, not getting enough support from judicial institutions, the thought that divorce is not culturally acceptable.

Psychological Factors:

Social learning: While men who have been exposed to or witnessed violence in their childhood are the perpetrators of violence, women who have been exposed to or witnessed violence in their childhood are more victims of violence.

Learned helplessness: The victim feels powerless and does not believe that he or she will break the cycle no matter what he does.

Emotional reasons: The victim's self-blame means that she deserves this violence false belief, feeling hopeless-helpless-trapped, lack of emotional support, believing that the perpetrator will change, embarrassment.

Threat:

Threat: About killing your partner, family and loved ones; if the partner has a child, it's about kidnapping and not showing it; about disclosing your privacy; threat to restrict economic freedom.

Types of Violence

Physical violence: The perpetrator is a deliberate act of violence towards the other person. By applying brute force in a way that causes personal injury, psychological harm and even death. physical violence; slapping, kicking, trying to strangle, throwing objects, punching, damaging with sharp tools.

Psychological (emotional) violence: The perpetrator humiliates the other person by using their emotions, criticizes and acts in a way that threatens his self-esteem. He ignores his partner's feelings and thoughts, blames him, makes him feel valued, humiliates him in public, exploits feelings, shows extreme jealousy, mocks, threatens and manipulates his feelings. psychology in person

Sexual violence: The perpetrator of violence is sexual acts without the consent of the other person. Although there are actions such as forcing the other person to have sexual intercourse, raping, harassing, having sexual intercourse without accepting no answer, touching the genitals, it causes both physical harm and psychological trauma to the person.

Economic violence: It occurs when the perpetrator restricts the economic freedom of the other person and uses money as a means of pressure. Behaviors that are examples of economic abuse; It can mean preventing the other person from working, not being able to find a job (if any), not giving money, consuming using the income of the other person, if any.

What can we do?

You can complain about the perpetrator by making use of the Law No. 6284 on the Protection of the Family and the Prevention of Violence Against Women.

You can apply to:

Police stations, gendarmerie stations
Family Courts
Healthcare institutions
Public Prosecutor's Office
Violence Prevention and Monitoring Centers (ŞÖNİM)
Provincial Directorates of the Ministry of Family and Social Policies
Municipal Women's Counseling Centers
Legal Aid Offices of Bar Associations
Women's Organizations

(This part is the pages I used, but I didn't give it as a reference in the form of APA because the article is not heavy. I was also inspired by the speeches of Clinical Psychologist Serap Altekin.)

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