The most important point we should give importance to in child education and human communication is the language we use. The language used towards the child is so important that it reflects the child's entire personality,
his self-confidence, the strength of his stance towards life, his ambitions, his abandonments. , his self-worth, his successes and failures, his attitude towards his wins and losses; In short, it shapes everything you imagine about the child's future.
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Pay attention to the language used when talking to your child.
Every word you use to your child. and there is a magic in the sentence and these words help your child define himself. For example ; When you say the sentence "You are so naughty" frequently, the message you give to the child is "You are that!" For this reason, the value of every word you use is very important.
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You should not talk about your child in an accusatory language to those around you. While talking, sometimes without realizing it, "My daughter is very shy, she always hides behind me when she sees someone else. Sentences like "My son is very hyperactive, he won't stay still!" should be avoided.
Sudden outbursts and shouting make the child fearful of the situation he is in at that moment. Even if you want to guide your children to the right behavior and protect them from a dangerous environment, your sudden reactions can harm your child. It gives the message that the situation is dangerous or bad, but after a while, you can see that this fear your child is experiencing is also present in other discoveries and experiences. This situation causes the child to approach everything with fear instead of teaching the correct behavior.
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Should not be threatened
''If you don't eat, there is no park for you!'' ''If you don't do this, you will have a toy. "I won't buy it!" No threat makes learning easier and cannot ensure correct learning. Do you prefer your child to eat because of what he wants to achieve, or do you want him to eat because he needs food? There are frequently encountered problems that seem innocent but put a great burden on the child's shoulders and make him anxious. Another threat is "If you don't do it, I will leave." Imagine that a very valuable person for you left you and you lost him/her. Isn't this a great pain? Not leaving will never alleviate this fear of loss that your child experiences. In addition, his/her faith and trust in you begins to disappear.
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Wait instead of intervening with your child immediately!
A child's most One of the things he needs is to be given the opportunity to express himself and acquire a skill. Imagine that you have just joined a workplace. Your boss is constantly telling you what you need to do; With persistence and impatience, he checks when you will finish and whether you will succeed. After a while, you feel suffocated and unsuccessful, right? In fact, it is not the different emotions that your children feel either. While they are gaining a new skill or trying to express themselves with certain experience and limited vocabulary, they need the parent who waits patiently and the parent's excitement to continue.
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