In the subway, in the movie theater, in the cafe, in the park... young people on the eve of marriage are concentrating on the phones in their hands, instead of looking at the opposite sex from the corner of their eyes and making a subtle observation. In terms of seeing and being seen, neither pretty, adorned girls nor sporty, well-groomed boys have their share, everyone is in their own world, eye contact seems to have become a thing of the past. The culture was classical seership. A connection was established between the mothers of the young people by a reliable mediator (matchmaker). In the next stage, the boy's mother would go to the girl's house and carefully examine both the girl and the girl's family (by looking at their speech, behavior, cleanliness of the house, etc.). Only when mutual consent was given would young people become aware of each other. In classical blind marriage, which was criticized as "young people getting married without knowing each other", dating was frowned upon. Experience was given more importance than emotion. Mothers were the ones who interrupted, and although fathers generally seemed to have the last word, by the time they intervened, the job was already over. “Children didn't know, adults knew.”
In those times, young people knew about each other at weddings, at the fountain, at a guest house, on the street... Embarrassed young men would blush while looking, young girls would break hearts by doing their own whims.
From where to where! All the figures passed away. Trustworthy mediators have been replaced by online matchmaking sites. Unfortunately, let alone reliability, all the features in the created data base (age, height, education, job… even gender) can turn out to be fake. “What would mom/dad think?” The number of young people who think like this is at a sample level. Internet marriages are popular, but the only problem is that they are not long-lasting and usually end in disappointment.
In the virtual life where the understanding of "modern arranged marriage" prevails, such as "listening to experiences", "taking responsibility", "establishing eye to eye contact". Acceptances of real life are not worth it. Unfortunately, today's young people miss the natural beauties right under their noses because they cannot look up from their phones.
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