“How does it feel to wait and stop, what happens in your body and mind?” our instructor began. The magic of that moment was just being able to stop. We noticed those who were not satisfied with stopping and coming to the surface. We know that it is not easy to stay with ourselves. The body is our oldest friend, and while we stopped our body, we tried to stay as we actually are. Just as we are, just as we are, just like that... The name of our workshop; Tasting Self-Compassionate Awareness, our instructor was Zeynep Selvili Çarmıklı. I want to spend my weekends doing things I enjoy. I entered the seminar hall with the excitement of my decision on Saturday morning. While waiting for our instructor, I was alone with myself and watched the surroundings, wondering what was going on. Where am I? Have I been here before? I wonder what we were going to talk about about self-compassion? The uncertainty of waiting was exciting this time!
“If you talked to your friends the way you talk to yourself, you would have no friends left.” our instructor continued. Think of a good friend, what do you say to him when he is in pain? Now think about yourself, what do you say to yourself when you are in pain? We treat our friends more compassionately than we do ourselves. So why can't we do this to ourselves? Why do we criticize ourselves harshly? If we are not aware that we are suffering, we cannot respond to that pain with compassion. When we are not aware of it, we see the failures of decades by saying to ourselves, "Look, I couldn't do it again, why couldn't I do it, why can't I do it, why did it happen to me, it always happens to me, if only I had the chance", and these prevent us from seeing the pure state of our pain. It creates layers.
That's why;
- It's a difficult moment right now, everyone is suffering. Suffering is a part of life,
-How can I support myself, what do I need?
We now treat ourselves the way we want others to treat us. let's act! Let's not forget to stop for a moment during the day and ask ourselves, "What do I need?" not only when we are in pain or in difficult moments. As we ask this question, we will sit in our lives and reach our compassionate side. We become more flexible, full of life, and able to break down the walls that hinder who we are and become better. To the days when we can treat ourselves as we treat a friend. With love,
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