We have been struggling with the Covid-19 virus epidemic that has been prevailing all over the world and in our country for more than a year. Within a year, the attitudes and behaviors that were considered normal for us are no longer considered normal, and many new normals are formed in work, social life, couple and family lives. During this period, we tried to live with the new normals and adapt to them. While it leaves many individual effects on people, we also see that it leaves many positive and negative effects on interpersonal relationships. This situation is especially noticeable in couples and family members. Existing problems between couples become more noticeable during this period, or new and different problems begin to emerge.
During the process of staying at home, it has been observed that the communication and interactions of some couples have increased positively, and unity and solidarity have been strengthened with stronger ties. In some couples, the opposite situation has been observed. It has been observed that couples repel each other rather than a healthy interaction. Research also shows us that divorces have increased during the Covid-19 period. It has been observed that lack of communication within the family, harmony and togetherness problems between couples have increased and related conflicts have occurred.
When we look at the reasons for the problems experienced between couples in this process, the problems that existed between couples before the pandemic process have become more evident, such as losing a job or It has been observed that external and internal factors such as increased stress due to decreased work opportunities, illness-related anxiety and fears, getting along problems, inability to communicate adequately with the environment, and disagreements in domestic duties and responsibilities are the main underlying reasons for conflicts between couples. While individuals tried to cover the problems that existed before the pandemic process with work, social activities, and options such as not staying together at certain times rather than the whole day, it has been observed that the disappearance or decrease of all these options during the pandemic process caused cracks in relationships. The reason why some couples experience problems is that the working conditions of the couples are heavy and stressful. Especially healthcare workers It has been observed that the intense working hours in the process alienate couples from each other and almost eliminate the opportunity to spend time together and make plans, which again causes couples to experience problems. In line with the existing conditions, the source of the problem in some couples was being together too much, while in others it was almost not being able to come together at all.
The effects of the pandemic process are quite evident in these problems experienced between couples. We are slowly entering a normalization process again from the pandemic period. This change will be more active and vibrant, unlike pandemic conditions. With this normalization process, the relationship between couples will change again in accordance with this process. No matter how much we cannot eliminate the virus from our lives, daily life will restart with ways to protect against it and the period of confinement at home will end, at least to some extent. With social vitality, stress, fear and anxiety on individuals will decrease and more positive emotions will prevail. The problems related to the confinement process, which creates problems between couples, will be diluted and it will be easier for couples to regain their daily life balance. At the same time, we look at the points that will help couples bring their relationships to a more positive point; Couples should be understanding towards each other, understand and empathize with the other party, accept the other party as they are rather than creating a change in their personality, couples should respect and accept each other's decisions, try to do so in a more constructive language rather than using a destructive language when criticizing, Attitudes and behaviors such as not exaggerating the problems and tearing each other down due to them, trying to keep the couples alive by expressing the positive and romantic aspects that are effective in their being together, and respecting the work they do will help couples understand the problems they experience in their relationships and overcome them.
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