Higher Education Institutions Exam (YKS), to which 3 million 527 thousand 463 candidates applied this year, will be held on 17 and 18 June. Psychiatrist Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan gave vital advice to students and families about stress management before the YKS exam. Tarhan explained with examples how the stress of academic success and performance anxiety caused by exams can be managed by giving the right meaning. Tarhan said, “Just as the student leaves his phone outside while taking the exam, he will leave the question 'what will be the exam' in his mind on the cloakroom. A young person who reduces his anxiety about the exam and learns to manage the exam will learn to manage many difficulties in life.” said. Tarhan made a 3-letter analogy to YKS, LGS, which brings stress along with uncertainty.
Comparing yourself with others increases anxiety
Describing the exam as "academic success stress", Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan said that people with performance anxiety can manage their stress if they attribute the right meaning to the source of stress. Explaining the correct meaning with examples, Tarhan said, “The person says, 'This is an important step on the way to life. If I pass this step, I gain something. When he thinks, “If I cannot pass this step, I am only losing one step, I will pass this step again next year”, he does his best, but in the end he becomes accepting. This stress becomes managed stress. If they have thoughts and conditioning such as, "If I fail, I will be ruined, it will be a disaster for me, no one will love me", they will leave this exam in the middle, lose the exam and cannot do what they know." He said.
There are three letters like YKS, LGS
Tarhan, who stated that academic exams contain uncertainty and therefore cause stress in children, said that YKS is a three-letter analogy that stresses those who will take the exam about LGS. made. Tarhan said, “There are three letters such as YKS and LGS. Kids are right to be stressed out. Not knowing what will happen raises the anxiety of young people, but in such cases, the family can control that anxiety. When the child says "you can do it, you're a lion", which we call high motivation, if the child has a high sense of responsibility, the possibility of failure comes to mind, and his anxiety increases. If the child has a high sense of responsibility, the approach is different, and if the sense of responsibility is low, the approach is different. If the child's sense of responsibility is high, if he is not very anxious, if he is ambitious, if the family says to him, "It doesn't matter, even if you don't win," the child's stress will increase. In such cases, if the child reminds his/her positive side by saying, 'You have done a lot of trial tests in the past, you have been successful many times, you have worked so hard', the child says, 'my family understands that I am trying my best', and in this case, his anxiety immediately goes down. If the child is irresponsible and loose, the family should always try to motivate him.” If not, he sees them as his right. If the responsibilities of life are not taught from the very beginning, if the parents have always completed that threshold, if their parents even gave their pen while going to the exam, these are also careless children who do not know what the exam is.” said.
Focus on the process, not the result!
Tarhan gave the following advice to candidates who will take the exam: “When taking the exam, focus should be on the process, not the result. The person should say, 'I have worked so hard, I am probably waiting for a result like this, if I reach this result, I am successful'. The thought of "I will be successful in the exam" also creates anxiety. The thought “I have to be successful” also causes fear of failure. During the exam, he sits and thinks about it. However, during the exam, the child will throw all his thoughts into the cloakroom in his mind, just as he leaves his phone out. After that, 'my priority right now is to do the best with the questions I have. Starting from where I know best. If the person applies the methods taught by the exam advisors, such as 'leaving the things I don't know for last', the person will reduce their anxiety about the exam. A young child who learns to manage an exam learns to manage many difficulties in life.”
Making the family feel that they are with them reduces anxiety
Tarhan stated that parents should also make young people feel their support and made the following suggestions: It's not a matter of partition. We love you even if you are successful. We love you even if you are not successful, but being successful is important for your future. do your best for it try to do your best. If there is no plan A, there is a plan B, plan C, and making him feel that he is with him reduces the anxiety in the child. Therefore, the attitude of the family is important here. The child's view of the event; ‘I need to overcome these exam obstacles in order to reach my goal in life. This is nothing to be afraid of for me. When he says, 'Something to overcome,' Plan A can somehow get over Plan B. He will think so, and if not today, he will exceed it tomorrow.”
The meaning attributed to the exam
Noting that the exam should not be a result-oriented thought, Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan said, “Will I be successful or not, it should be thought process-oriented. There is no stress when he says, "I have to solve so many questions to be successful in this exam, I have to do this", that is, when a person thinks about something that he can control and focuses on it. Anxiety happens when he focuses on things he can't control. What it cannot control is the result.
The thing that can control is working so many hours and taking these measures. It is necessary to focus on the things that he can mentally control. If he focuses on things he cannot control; He says, 'I can't do this'. “I will not be successful,” he says. Such negative thoughts come. "Comparing yourself with others that increases anxiety," he said.
Watch out for stress-related icing!
Tarhan, who stated that some metaphors about stress work, said: “There are frosts related to stress in life, when you are on this icy road, if there is icing, everything seems to be fine. You go, you tumble in the secret icing. There are also such invisible stresses in life. Instead of approaching them with fear, you will not walk with both feet in the air. You take one step, you look at the other, you take the other. Walking by running, walking to stress, causes slipping and falling in icing.”
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