"Why is adolescence difficult?" Have you ever thought?
Have you ever thought why adolescence is difficult? Because a change in one person in the system leads to a change in other elements of the system... because when they enter adolescence, we enter middle age. He talks about the basic elements: identity, sexuality and separation
In his article, Parman mentions that the young person who enters adolescence and questions who he is is not alone. The adolescent's questions such as "Who am I?", "What kind of person should I be?" While asking the questions, parents in their middle ages also ask "Who have I become?", "Is this what I want to be?" He underlines that they are entering a period in which they question the entire life they left behind by asking these questions.
Underlining that sexuality, which until then belonged to the parents, has now become the area of interest of the young person who has entered adolescence, Parman says that the young person who wants to have a lover like his parents should leave the house. He talks about his direction. He underlines that this period may not be easy for the adolescent to turn to the outside world, as they need to return to a relationship where being a man and a woman is at the forefront after 15 years in which being a parent has come to the fore.
The last step in resolving the crisis is the adolescent's departure...to his own life. Parman, who underlines that the parent's acceptance of the child's orientation towards separation, underlines that it will only become easier for the adolescent to prepare himself for separation if the parents allow it, and finally adds: "However, how ready is the parent generation to separate from their children? How long can they tolerate the feeling of abandonment? Or to feel completely worthless anymore?
I didn't know... how ready our parents were for our departure... I didn't know how ready we were for our children to leave...
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