Children display three basic behaviors while expressing their feelings and thoughts. These forms of behavior; shyness, aggression and assertiveness.
Shy children choose to remain passive in their environment and peer relations and accept the ideas of other children. Absent children have difficulty showing and expressing their emotions. They cannot protect their rights.
Aggressive children, on the other hand, display aggressive attitudes in order to meet their emotional needs, make their wishes come true, and suppress others in their environment and peer relationships. They ignore other people and their needs. They use avoidance reactions such as crying, hiding, and sulking to cope with difficult situations. Assertive behavior is based on self-expression and respecting the rights of others. It defends that both parties are equal in a relationship and is focused on benefiting both parties. Assertiveness is defined as the healthiest behavior in interpersonal relationships. When a child is assertive (with safe behavior skills), he or she does not experience situations of being aggressive and controlling others or being passive and under the control of others. Children with advanced assertiveness skills can ask others for information. He/she learns behaviors that initiate relationships such as self-promotion and how to react to the behaviors of others. ability,
To express negative situations,
Communication,
Introducing oneself,
Comfort in peer relationships,
Accepting/rejecting others' requests
Invite,
Express your thoughts,
Persuasion
Speaking the Truth
Protection and Defense of Your Right.
What Should Parents Do to Develop Assertiveness?
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Children who feel listened to and cared for can express themselves more easily. Try to create an environment where he can share his feelings and thoughts comfortably. Make sure to be at eye level when speaking. The right communication you establish will make the child feel listened to and cared for.
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Often all a child needs is an understanding of their feelings. To support self-expression, you can name the emotion based on what your child tells. Asking too many questions for self-expression causes the child to abstain while expressing himself. You should give your child the right to make decisions by offering options. In this way, the most reluctant child will be more confident in making the decision he has made after a while.
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By highlighting his positive behaviors, draw attention to the things he is good at. Allow him to list positive judgments about himself. This will increase his belief in himself before taking action.
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Encourage him to solve his own problems and give him opportunities. Expressing oneself and solving problems is an acquired skill. You should support your child to develop these features like a muscle. So you can help him think of alternative responses. (Can you try to talk about this subject with your teacher and friend, How can you express yourself differently instead of shouting? etc.) He can dream about how he can respond more effectively to the person he has determined by closing his eyes. You can make suggestions to reduce your child's excitement.
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You can help her evaluate her behavior and encourage her to try new methods by emphasizing the positive aspects of her behavior.
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Give her opportunities to say "No" and take her response seriously when she says "No." You must give the opportunity.
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When communicating with your child, use the words "ok", "sorry no", "I invite you", "I think", "no" appropriately and in appropriate situations, and encourage them to use .
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