Vaginismus; It is the involuntary contraction of the first third of the controllable muscle section surrounding the vagina due to anxiety, worry and fear, preventing entry to the vagina and causing pain due to contractions.
These contractions occur in the absence of any structural or medical disorders, but are cognitive distortions of psychological origin and traumatic events. It is a sexual dysfunction that develops with unconscious, involuntary repetitive behaviors as a result of memories.
In vaginismus, not only the muscles surrounding the vagina, but also the entire muscle group in the region, and even the entire body muscles may contract. Fear and anxiety develop when unresolved negative memories dominate the body. With the information processing region of the brain being disabled, the fear-anxiety center becomes active and adrenaline rises as a defense, resulting in contractions, sweating, tremors, palpitations, shortness of breath, numbness, burning, pain throughout the body as the physical equivalent of the primitive defense mechanisms of "fight or evade". It brings nausea, that is, anxiety, to the fore.
So, let's talk about how sexuality may have come to this situation. Yes... One of the important reasons is how much the society and family structure of women are affected at the socio-cultural level, the place of women in society, misinterpretation of religious teachings and myths (wrong beliefs). Of course, the emotional bond in the father-daughter relationship is also very important. Childhood sexual trauma or physical and psychological trauma is also very effective. The way all these relationships are experienced and the level of influence they experience can cause vaginismus as a network of negative memories, not feeling safe for today and tomorrow, the anxiety of losing control, the feeling of being harmed, the doctrine that one will be humiliated, despised, not accepted, obeyed and obeyed, and the physical equivalent of repressed emotions. .
Even during playtime, girls are subjected to a flood of unknown fear, with prohibitions such as riding a bicycle, jumping, jumping, stretching their legs, straining in the toilet, touching their pussy, touching, looking, with the belief that the hymen will be damaged. Girls, who are given the responsibility of protecting and keeping secretly or openly by both society and their parents at a young age, become so accustomed to growing up with this situation that they are like fish out of water when they are asked to present this. Until the eve of marriage Oh my god!” It suddenly ends in a single sentence with the words "Come on girl, you know what to do, it would be a shame to tell us." Now, by what means does this young girl deceive her body and mind into accepting the prohibitions and shames of society and her family through herself... a big question mark??? Touching, jumping, jumping will get damaged, and the treasure room called kanar is expected to be opened with a tool that pierces the asphalt.
After explaining the male and female genital anatomy and physiology at a level that couples in vaginismus can understand, the negative and misinformation in mind is evaluated and refuted with scientific facts.
EMDR; Eye movement desensitization is part of psychotherapy as a reprocessing technique. It is the reprocessing of negative experiences from the brain's unprocessed information network by activating the processing process and replacing them with positive thoughts, and the negative experiences are resolved without disturbing the person today and tomorrow. In short, it is the improvement of our negative experiences in our emotions, thoughts, physical sensations and behaviors.
Let's not forget that our memories will either grow, mature and shed light with us, or they will not be processed and will always be immature, repetitive, dark and hindering moments.
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