The feeling of loneliness is one of the basic materials we work with in existential therapy. While loneliness can be a choice (just being alone is not a choice), it begins to negatively affect the individual when he feels isolated from social environments and thoughts.
Loneliness can be physical, interpersonal, psychological and intellectual. Sometimes we feel the greatest loneliness when we do not receive empathy from the other person and when we think that we are not truly listened to.
Loneliness has been one of the requirements of being human since the beginning of the universe. We are born alone and when the time comes, we leave life alone, so feeling this feeling of being stuck can only be felt if we accept it and think that its existence adds the distinction of 'me and us' and motivates us to find meaning in life, it will no longer be our closet ghost, we will feel understood and valued as an individual. Even though we deserve whatever we experience, we must not forget that every emotion is actually hidden in thoughts and our own selves.
Our automatic thoughts are activated when the emotions we feel in the face of an event affect the way we interpret the event and affect our thoughts in their own direction. They come to our minds without thinking about them and involuntarily, so I would like to concretize the thoughts that come to our minds for a moment in daily life and spoil our joy:
For example; You had an argument with a friend, you think that he/she does not understand you at all and you feel that this situation cannot be resolved. What would your feeling be? (I think I would be sad) What would you think? and ultimately your comment would suggest a predicate. Our automatic thoughts (I am worthless, I am not loved, I am unsuccessful) are actually our predicates that force us to think when they come to our minds.
When we adapt this example to the feeling of loneliness, thinking that the only solution is to be trapped in this feeling, no matter how deep our feelings are, changes our perspectives. It may mean narrowing down. Our thoughts and comments, along with our memories, are what make us who we are. When you feel lonely, don't forget to write down your evidence to the contrary.
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