Marriage constitutes one of the most important turning points in human life. A difficult process awaits men and women who reach marriage age. Who should get help in choosing a spouse? What should be taken into consideration when making this decision? Based on what and by whom should this choice be made? When we look at all these confusing questions and answers, it seems like a difficult and complex process, right? However, when we look at some of the people around us in daily life, we see that they make this "difficult" decision in one fell swoop.
So which one is actually true?
Human beings have a purpose from their creation to the present day; "To ensure the continuation of the human race!" In fact, all this confusion stems from the divergence of expectations, which has been frequently encountered especially in recent times. While people dream of getting married and establishing a home to ensure the continuation of their lineage, they also dream of finding many of the qualities they want in their future spouse. "He should have a good job, he should not cause financial difficulties, he should have a house, he should have a car, he should have a good education and career, he should be handsome/beautiful, he should be well-mannered, he should be respectful to my family, he should have a good family, he should follow my advice, etc." This list goes on and on. Therefore, what we need to look at is what actually falls into the definition of a good partner for us? What do we expect or what are we looking for in our partner? So before we determine the characteristics of a good partner for us, we need to know ourselves and what we want or don't want. We must decide.
Another important issue in choosing a spouse is the socio-cultural structure and the harmony of the root families. It is thought that people who grew up in a close socio-cultural structure and have common values and beliefs have higher marital compatibility. In similar cultures It is stated that grown-up spouses can adapt to each other more easily, and root families also have more positive relationships with each other. Unfortunately, the incompatibility of root families in marriages can negatively reflect on the relationships of the spouses. For this reason, another important point to consider when choosing a spouse is to -Taking care to be educated in a cultural environment. Unfortunately, in our society, marriages are not limited to two people. Root families and close circle are also included in the system. In this way, even though the spouses are in harmony with each other, the disharmony of the root families is reflected in the system and causes problems.
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