First, let's talk about where the word narcissist comes from. The word narcissist, which has survived from Greek mythology to the present day, comes from the mythological hero Narcissus. Echo, a very beautiful fairy girl who ignores those who fall in love with her and leaves them unrequited, one day sees a hunter hunting. This hunter named Narcissus is very handsome. Ekho falls in love with this young hunter at first sight. However, Narcissus does not reciprocate this love and walks away from the fairy girl. In the face of this situation, Ekho melts day by day and dies, falling in love with himself. The bones remaining from his entire body turn into rocks, and his voice turns into echoes in these rocks, which we call 'echo'.
The gods living on Mount Olympus are very angry with this situation and decide to punish Narcissus. One day, Narcissus, on his hunting trail, came to a riverside, thirsty and exhausted. When he bends down to drink water from here, he sees the beauty of his own face and body reflected in the water. He is fascinated by this beauty that he could not notice before. He can't get up, he has fallen in love with himself. He loved his own image as much as he had never loved anyone else before. In that way, he can neither drink water nor eat there. Just like Echo, Narcissus begins to melt day by day and spends his life there just watching himself. After he dies, his body turns into daffodil flowers. And this is where the word narcissist in psychology was inspired.
So, what are these narcissistic people like? These people can develop this personality with what they learn from their parents and social environment at birth or at any stage of their development. These people are people with exaggerated self-admiration, self-conceit, all-powerfulness and grandiosity. While they exalt themselves, they tend to belittle and humiliate others. The feeling of superiority, the need to be liked, the expectation of admiration and the inability to empathize are the main characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder.
Narcissists generally seek people's appreciation, approval, love, admiration and admiration. They chase after winning, they cannot love wholeheartedly and deeply or feel sad. The narcissist who appears cold, distant, arrogant, arrogant and attractive on the outside Beneath this appearance of their work, they actually have a structure that is extremely sensitive to hurt, fragile, and lacking in self-confidence and self-worth.
Again, these people do not like to listen to other people, they always like to be the center of attention, they do not like to obey the rules, and they cannot accept the attitude of superiority. They are people who cannot handle criticism, are not open to new ideas, and always think they are right. And they get angry easily and blame the other party for this situation.
After reading this information, we all realize that there is such a person in our lives. Maybe your spouse, your child or a friend…
Well, I can hear you asking how we should treat these people. Our approach to narcissistic people should be as follows; The limits of behavior towards a narcissistic person should be made clear. All manipulative behaviors, emotionally and psychologically, should be limited and not allowed. It should not be shown or felt that you are approached with the fear of losing him. If you have a fear of losing the person, the underlying reason should also be determined. We should not have feelings of guilt, worthlessness, or inadequacy in the face of a narcissistic person. It should not be taken as a task to feed his ego and no effort should be made to change or correct him. And finally, feelings, positive or negative, towards a narcissistic person should be expressed clearly.
Finally, if we talk about whether there is a cure, narcissistic personality disorder is a disorder that generally cannot be treated with medication. Individuals with narcissistic personality disorder are resistant to treatment. Therefore, treatment should be handled by an expert clinical psychologist using long-term psychotherapy. Cognitive behavioral therapy method is frequently used in therapy methods. And this disorder is among the disease groups that therapists have the most difficulty with. If you have relatives around you who have these characteristics, you can refer them to a psychotherapist.
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