The reasons that start a marriage and the reasons that continue it are completely different from each other. Although love initiates marriage, love alone is never enough to continue this institution. The same thing seems to be true for marriages of convenience. There is one point that is important for the continuation of marriage and the continuation of family integrity in the period of social isolation we are currently in, and that is RESPONSIBILITY.
Living with parents who took on responsibilities before marriage may cause the person to not be aware of the responsibilities that he/she must take with marriage. . A lot of responsibilities await couples after marriage. Until marriage, the person may not have been given much of a role in many matters such as household maintenance, daily chores, and investment plans for the future.
After marriage, couples are left alone with all responsibilities. For example, household shopping, which was always under the control of one's parents until then, becomes a very heavy burden after marriage. Or, a person whose responsibility for covering monthly household expenses falls on his or her parents before marriage may see this as a very heavy burden after marriage. Children who are raised without being given responsibility may have problems when they get married, as their sense of responsibility is almost never formed. People who cannot take responsibility need to take shelter in their families, both materially and spiritually. Because they do not dare to start a new family on their own.
People who cannot take responsibility constantly need approval and consult someone when making decisions. For these people, the first years of marriage may be the beginning of regrets. On the other hand, during this period, the person may become aware of himself; He is open to change and can gain the ability to manage the situation.
But it is a fact that couples who cannot take responsibility in marriage cannot make that marriage work. In marriage, spouses must define their roles and determine their responsibilities. In order to preserve our family integrity, especially during the social isolation period we are currently in, domestic responsibilities should be shared and family members should fulfill their own responsibilities. Giving family members responsibilities appropriate to their age will be a great opportunity for family togetherness and enjoyable time.
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