Can we get to know you a little bit?
I was born in Tarsus, 1984. I was born as the last child of a family of four children. After completing my undergraduate education in Mersin University Psychological Counseling and Guidance Department in 2007, I completed my master's degree with thesis at Çukurova University in the same department. I did my thesis on attachment dimensions, marital satisfaction and life satisfaction of married individuals. Since the first years of my professional life, I have completed Weinheim Systemic Psychotherapy Institute Family Therapy training, Weinheim Systemic Psychotherapy Institute Sexual Therapy training, CİSED Child and Adolescent Therapy training. My belief that education is a lifelong process and the importance of improving myself has led me to start Art Therapy and Creativity education. In the course of my professional life, my biggest strength has been my marriage, which feeds my river of life. I have been married for thirteen years and have two sons.
During the pandemic process……How do we know that our child is addicted to technology?
Yes, the pandemic process makes us and our children obligatory. as a result of being more intertwined with technology. I can say that there has been an increase in families who want to get support with technology addiction. Just before our children are stricken with an addiction, it has become even more important to understand if they need support. “So how do we know that this is a problem that needs to be addressed now?” Your child;
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The time she spends on her tablet, phone or computer gradually increases.
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When she is away from the technological object she uses, she becomes restless and this restlessness becomes anger. manifests with insomnia and withdrawal symptoms. You are at home with a child who is easily angered and confused. For example; While you suggest that your child can go out with his friends and watch a good movie at the cinema, he insists on staying at home. extends its responsibilities.
What kind of negative effects does technology addiction have on children?
The child, who takes the technological object and the games he plays with it or other behaviors into the center of his life, gives up on everything that gives him pleasure in other areas of life. . Actual time with family and friends dwindles and is replaced by a virtual world of his own. This process causes his family and friendship relations to deteriorate over time. Think about how sometimes a person neglects even his own basic needs, and how he does not neglect the needs of the people around him and his needs for relationship. In time, lies are also used to create excuses for stakeholders in neglected areas. This addiction, which harms both the body and the mind, also causes a regression in mental skills after a certain point. The child, who is increasingly enslaved by this situation he cannot control, must be supported before he rejects the resources of help.
What is the situation for adults? How do we know if we are addicted to technology?
If you are so busy with technological objects that you ignore your responsibilities as an adult; If you want to withdraw to your own world and be isolated as soon as possible instead of family rituals when you come home from work, if you are delaying your sleeping hours day by day, if you neglect your relationship with your spouse and your child as a result of all this, and if you have problems, if you prefer your isolated technological life instead of social relations. there is addiction. In systemic therapy, we see the individual as a part of the family system and assume that the technological object also serves a purpose within this system. I can explain this more clearly as follows; Sometimes we see problems caused by addiction, and sometimes other problems are covered by addiction. We should also look at what problem the existing technological object in the family system is preventing you from seeing and why you need it. Technology addiction is a process that needs multidimensional evaluation and we consider it essential to receive professional support.
How does technology addiction affect intra-family communication? pantry?
Absolutely impressive. It is impossible for an object placed in the center not to steal relationships from other members of the family. Every family has its own routines and rituals. Dinner is eaten in every house; however, some do not start the meal without the father of the house, while some have to start without the father of the house. Although the conditions of each house are different, in a family where it is important to be peaceful and happy, the aim is to take care to give each other space; is to nurture the areas we are together. If we are talking about a family of which the technology addicted individual is a part; Since the areas that need to be fed together are neglected, it negatively affects family relations by causing disconnections in communication and sometimes great arguments.
Is it possible to get rid of this addiction?
Of course, it is possible through a structured process that includes all stakeholders of the family system. In systemic family therapy, a process is carried out in which all members of the system are included. At this point, the important thing is to start and continue the treatment process on time. If timely intervention is not made, it is more difficult and longer to get results because the person is not open to getting help.
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