Marriage is an indispensable fact that has survived from past to present. Marriage is an institutionalized way, a system of relationships, a legal form of relationship that binds men and women together as husband and wife and provides a certain status to the children to be born. The decision to marry and the choice of a spouse are important junctions in a person's life. The decision a person makes is an effective decision that determines what kind of life he will live with and with whom he will have children. Correct decisions made in choosing a spouse also positively affect the satisfaction of marriage. Nowadays, with the increase in divorces, the impact of pre-marital factors has begun to be understood more.
So how do we choose our spouse?
People considering a long-term relationship take many factors into consideration. We humans are biological beings. A number of driving forces influence when choosing a partner. From an evolutionary perspective, women are more selective in choosing partners and in sexual intercourse. They prefer a talented, responsible, and responsible man as a husband for their children who will be born later. Men, on the other hand, prefer women who will be less selective about sexual relationships, especially short-term ones, and who have the characteristics to conceive, give birth and raise healthy children.
According to another understanding, both men and women want to choose partners who are kind, understanding, intelligent and have exciting personalities. While women care about men's ability to generate good income, men care about attractiveness in women. Education level, age, personality traits, etc. factors are taken into consideration. In addition, individuals with similar family structures, similar life views, and the same value judgments do not have difficulty in living a harmonious relationship.
So what should be the expectations from marriage?
Expectations also determine the meaning given to marriage. High expectations from marriage are one of the most important reasons for the problems experienced between spouses. Because if high expectations are not met in marriage, it causes disappointment. Therefore, marriage should be thought of as going on a long journey, and it should not be forgotten that there may be good and bad times. Important What matters is knowing how marriage can be lived at the point of sharing and whether there are common values. However, it is not possible to have everything under one's control and find one hundred percent harmony in the marriage decision
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