We all commute to work or somewhere every day and spend time in city traffic. I wanted to share with you an incident that happened to me. While driving on a busy street to go to my workplace, I came across a female driver who could not start her car at traffic lights and was trying to start it in panic. The traffic was quite heavy and the horns and shouts of the angry crowd waiting behind were jarring. It reminded me of my fear of traffic lights in my rookie days when I stole the car from my father. I did something I've never done before, stopped the car, walked up to the lady and offered help. Amid the honking of the angry crowd's horns, he got out of the car and walked to the sidewalk next door. His face was red and sweaty from stress. I managed to pull his car over to the curb just a short distance away. I say I succeeded because the car was a model I was not used to. The crowd was looking at me as if they were one and now they were two. Unfortunately, I could also hear strange curses. This time my car was left in the square and all the anger was directed at me. It didn't matter that I did this move to help. Meanwhile, the green light was about to expire and the crowd behind was getting very angry. Only an old man was smiling and watching us calmly. Then I went to the lady who was very upset and while I was talking to her, the uncle also came. Our person said, "I'm an impatient girl." Anyway, thank you a lot, and after swearing a lot, I left. Then I started thinking. At what point did we compromise our helpfulness? When did we become so angry? Okay, maybe our people behind us also had some catching up to do, but wasn't there really another way to express this without getting angry, shouting or cursing (?)….
Once anger comes, our elders used to say that wisdom goes away. It's like there's a waterfall inside us and we can't stop that waterfall. So what can we do? Is there anyone who never gets angry, or if so, how healthy is he? What we need to understand is not not to get angry at all... Although the anger we reflect in traffic, on the street, in the workplace provides some healing, it never drains the underlying swamp. We can never get rid of the mosquitoes in the swamp. Our anger only changes its target, this situation often happens in the family. Your children, who follow you, begin to put it into practice in their own lives. They, too, move forward by finding new areas to reflect their anger, perhaps through peer bullying.
Suppressed anger can manifest itself in a very different spectrum, from depression to panic attacks. Of course, our body also gets its share of this. You may fall into a depressive mood that causes pain, decreasing your quality of life. Now you have new reasons to feel anger.
First of all, it is useful to start by accepting that this feeling is normal. Problems are not solved when anger is suppressed or reflected. We are postponing the inevitable reality that we have to face. It is necessary to analyze carefully in which situations we experience this. Are aggressive attitudes and frequent anger our way of dealing with every situation? It has been determined that aggressive people try to dominate their relationships with others, and if they are successful in this, they tend to feel like they have solved their problems.
Healthy people can express their anger, happiness and love in the appropriate environment. It is a person who can show it with an appropriate expression and do it with the integrity of his/her self …
With love….
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