If you repeat this sentence in many areas of your life, you need to stop and think. You tried to keep up, you did everything you could, and you were tired enough. It's time to change your mindset.
The main source of the feeling of inadequacy may be the experiences of being constantly negatively criticized and not appreciated. After a while, you start to feel inadequate in every aspect due to the conflicts you experience with the authority figure in your life and the criticisms coming from the person you consider to be the authority.
The authority figure is not always the parent. You may have a friend who constantly pressures you in your circle of friends, a boss or colleague who criticizes you at work, or a peer who embarrassed you in every environment in your childhood.
The person we see as an authority has an important place in our lives. Sometimes we expect to get approval from that person and make him/her accept us. Sometimes we take that person as an example.
The feeling of inadequacy is one of the feelings that develops together with lack of self-confidence. When one is shaken, the other begins to fail. After a person's self-confidence is damaged, he questions his abilities and achievements in every field and begins to doubt the things he has.
So what can we do to change this?
Now you have done your best and you have started to trust someone throughout your life. You have put your own life, desires and dreams behind by trying to be enough. Now is the time to do just enough for yourself. If you approve of what you do, if you can appreciate your efforts and if you can self-criticize what you do, that's enough.
If you fulfill your responsibilities towards the people you are responsible for, you are already doing what is necessary. You don't have to compromise yourself for more.
Live for yourself. Don't let your self-esteem be in someone else's hands. You must stop having dreams and goals that you leave to be approved by someone else's opinion.
You must learn to say NO. If something does not fit your life, your thoughts, your personality, you do not have to say Yes to make someone happy or to be accepted by that person/environment.
You did everything necessary and in your power. If you did not receive anything in return, it is not in your control. And this is not a sign that you are inadequate.
You, your decisions, your goals, your thoughts, your dreams, exist only for yourself.
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