Since the psycho-social development of children is shaped by their family and environment, the role of their mothers and fathers has an important place in directing the lives of children. The communication and attitudes of parents towards their children are very important. When parents act consciously at this point, children can have a healthy social environment and lead a healthy life. In this process, parents' own mental health is also very important. The most important factor for the formation of a healthy society is the existence of a healthy family. A healthy family is provided by the relationship between couples and the relationship between parents and children. Relationships significantly affect the mental and physiological health and social life of individuals.
The foundations of communication begin in the early years of children. Since children's social environment in their early years is their family, it is necessary to be careful in their communication with their mothers and fathers. Communication in these periods can be a harbinger of the communication to be established with their future social environment. Children shape their behavior and communication towards the individuals around them in line with the experiences they learn from their parents and teachers. Parents' own psychological processes greatly affect their communication with their children. In order to establish healthy communication with children, family members must respect and value each other's decisions and opinions and make their children feel this. Let's not forget that children are also individuals and they should exist within the family. When making a decision within the family, parents should also ask their children's opinions. Thus, children will begin to establish their position and place within the family over time, and they will continue to be within the family during their adulthood. He will identify his position at work and his ongoing communication with his position in his social environment and try to establish himself in society. For this reason, you need to communicate with and include your child in order to establish your child's position within the family.
Children with Communication Tools
The use of communication tools that develop in parallel with the development of technology has recently significantly affected the lives of children. Children's communication tools Misuse of communication tools is due to incorrect mental understanding of those communication tools and parents not setting limits. While communication tools have a strengthening and improving effect on children's lives, they also have a regressive and inhibiting effect on children, resulting in mental laziness as a result of fixation on ready-made information. At this point, parents' attitudes and behaviors are very important. By setting limits for your children, you can decide how they should use communication tools.
How Should Effective Communication Be with Children?
There are certain ways to ensure effective communication with children. The most important of these are; You must be able to EMPATHY with your child, respect his/her existence and make him/her feel that you accept your child unconditionally. Mothers and fathers who can perform these behaviors show that they can establish healthy communication with their children. Children who can communicate healthily share things with their parents. Most importantly, at this point, children begin to realize themselves and feel their own uniqueness. The child takes this communication as a model and applies it to his social environment throughout his life. When communicating with your children, they take into account their individual characteristics, gender, developmental level. You should take this into consideration. Communicating in a way that they can understand will make both their and your life easier.
Another of the most important factors for effective communication is to establish EYE CONTACT. Establishing eye contact at the time of communication with your child will make them feel understood and ensure healthy communication. .
When communicating with your child, you should wait for him to finish speaking. In this way, he will feel that his words are respected, and while talking to people in public, your child will learn to respect other people. You should not forget that your child first establishes and learns communication with his parents. You should ensure that your child listens to his words. Your child will learn to listen to the people around him.
The environment in which communication is established and the change in the conditions around him have an important place in the effect of communication. Your child should feel comfortable and be able to express himself well while communicating. Changing the spoken environment may prevent your children from expressing themselves.
Communication with your child. You should pay attention to your speaking speed, body language, tone of voice, facial expressions and emotions. Your children may be affected by these factors and cause obstacles in their communication with you. This situation may cause some communication barriers for the child. There are some communication barriers that adults experience with their children. Parents sometimes do these things without realizing it, and sometimes they cannot find the reasons for their children's behavior. In fact, they communicate with their children with wrong messages without realizing it. Some of these obstacles include:
Use of imperative sentences
Finding solutions to the existing problem
Lack of interest in the subject and not taking it seriously
Not making eye contact
Communication keeping a distance in the area
Making insinuations with gestures and facial expressions
Use of body language (head movements, shaking of the feet, etc.)
Threatening the parents themselves or their children with something they love
Analyzing and questioning
Criticizing children's behavior
A child who feels that he is not listened to or understood by his parents has difficulty in communicating with the people around him, avoids or closes himself to communication. The most important thing is to be able to practice healthy communication with children and help them achieve this communication. Children are interested in knowledge and learning. Since they are open, they only need the support of their parents in this regard. Children with healthy communication respect their own and the other person's feelings and decisions, and do not have problems in being confident and expressing themselves during communication. As a result of this situation, children's self-confidence and their sense of their lives It has an effect on increasing respect.
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