We are all going through a challenging process with the coronavirus epidemic. We have been learning to do things that are different and that we have not experienced before in our lives for a while now. In this period when technology enters our educational lives, even our children who were born into technology may experience difficulties in online education. However, students, teachers and families are quickly adapting to distance learning. Although there are individual differences in the ability to adapt to new conditions, I would like to make a few suggestions that you, as parents, can help your children in this process.
1. Create a routine
It is important to teach your child good habits. By creating a flexible routine, you and your child can try to keep up with the entire household. Divide your days into predictable sections. Help your child get up, get dressed, and be ready to learn at a reasonable time. Also, be careful to give your child responsibilities appropriate to his age. For example, everyone can make their own bed.
2. Do not ban technological devices
During this process, never ban technological devices such as phones, computers or tablets from your child. Establishing authority by banning technological devices, which are the only socialization channel for children who are already bored at home, will have more negative effects. Anyway, the reward and punishment method will not work unless it is done systematically and with rules in behavior training. Rather than banning, impose a time limit. Also, check the content.
3. Choose a good place to learn
Create a space for your child where he can carry out his school activities. If possible, a room can belong to him, if not, a corner can belong to him. But be careful not to change this area frequently, neither you nor your child. Make sure it's quiet, free of distractions, and has a good internet connection. You may need to supervise your child from time to time during this process. Because a person who listens to a lecture on the computer may become distracted after a while, but this is a situation that can be experienced by everyone, not just children.
4. Stay in touch
Teachers, many We communicate with our students regularly, mostly through our online platforms and online learning environments. You can also regularly check and sign the homework control forms that our teachers send to our students. Do not hesitate to contact your child's teacher when he does not do his homework.
5. Encourage learning
Children generally do not expect parents to be full-time teachers or education and content experts. Get your kids to do their part with support and encouragement.
6. Ask questions to support your child and prepare him for the lesson
In the morning:
* What lessons / subjects do you have today?
* You have any exams ?
* How will you spend your time?
* What resources do you need?
* What can I do to help?
At the end of the day:
* What did you learn today?
* What did you discover? What was difficult?
* What can we do to make tomorrow better?
7. Spend time with your child
Your children who are in puberty and adolescence may not want to spend time with you during this period, they may not leave their room or talk to you all day. Yes, they may need to be alone, but do not hesitate to take steps to strengthen the relationship between you. Discover his interests, watch movies together, play games and make good memories.
8. Instead of Reward and Punishment
As I said at the beginning, the reward and punishment method is an effective method in developing behavior, but it is very difficult to actually implement it. This may cause your child not to develop the behavior you want and to develop another behavior instead (for example, punishing your child when he does not do homework may cause your child to act as if he has done his homework next time). Instead, emphasizing the positive behaviors your child does (see reinforcement) will make your child more likely to behave the behavior you want. It will cause him to do a lot.
9. If the lesson is not studying
Oz Control: Defined as an individual's effort to control himself, self-control is defined as the capacity of the individual to adapt to his social environment and to change himself in this context and to adapt himself to the conditions he is in.
Self-control is something learned, but it is also a function of the brain. So, if there is no known biological impulse control problem, it will develop naturally. However, due to the intervention and inappropriate attitudes of parents and the environment, the child may have difficulties in controlling himself. There is a difference between teaching a child as a rule what to do and when and reminding him what he needs to do when he needs to do it. The aim of child discipline is to teach the rules in a non-destructive way. Children who learn the rules, are rewarded when they set the rules, and are encouraged to obey the rules do not need to be reminded of the rules frequently. However, children should always be encouraged to follow the rules. In other words, the fact that he is doing something that is a rule should not be ignored with the thought that "he should have done it anyway". Sometimes parents are not interested in the rules that the child follows and their appropriate behavior, but they are too concerned with their inappropriate and illegal behavior. They feel obliged to constantly remind the rule. They constantly remind children of the work they have to do. The child postpones work and resists not doing it. This dialogue usually ends in scolding and fighting. This is a result that both the child and the parents do not like, and it does not constitute a permanent solution to the problem. In fact, it causes the existing problem to worsen and the quality of the relationship between parent and child to deteriorate. In addition, children who are constantly reminded of their responsibilities and what to do can never take responsibility and can never control themselves regarding their responsibilities. These children can only behave appropriately if there is an authority figure (an adult, mother, father, teacher, etc.). In fact, when they realize that some adults treat them more easily and are more tolerant, they may exhibit uncontrolled behavior despite the presence of that person. For example, a child who follows the rules of his own classroom teacher and does not cause problems may behave uncontrollably in the lessons of other branch teachers. Same � A child who is calm when his father is present may show more incompatible and restless behavior with his mother in the absence of his father.
As a country, we are going through a difficult process, but children experience this process more difficult. . While our children in puberty and adolescence prove their existence thanks to their social environment during this developmental period, they cannot develop themselves with this developmental period due to social isolation. Therefore, it would not be realistic to expect children to manage everything very well during this abnormal process.
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