The feeling of jealousy is inherent in every human being. However, as with every emotion, overstimulation of this emotion brings with it some difficulties. The situation becomes even more difficult, especially when children are involved.
What behaviors trigger sibling jealousy?
It is actually the attitudes of parents that make jealousy abnormal.
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When parents treat their children equally, jealousy is triggered between siblings. The important point is to treat children fairly, not equally. Showing the same approach to both without discrimination may mean crushing one of them against the other.
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The child, who feels that his parents do not treat him fairly, loses trust in his parents and distrust, which is the real trigger of jealousy, begins.
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Age difference between children is also a factor that plays a role in jealousy. The feeling of jealousy is more intense in a child who has a sibling at the age of 3. Because the self-centered nature of a 3-year-old child cannot accept sharing the love of the parents with a new sibling.
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When one sibling is compared to one of the family members and the other is not, it causes a feeling of exclusion in the child. The feeling of exclusion is also a trigger for jealousy. It is necessary to be careful in such situations.
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If the older sibling is not shown that the status he previously had has not been lost, the older child will experience panic and anxiety when his new sibling is born. This intense anxiety can increase feelings of jealousy and violence towards the younger sibling.
What should parents do?
The arrival of a new sibling at home inevitably makes the older child uneasy. However, if parents behave naturally, the jealousy brought on by this anxiety will disappear before it sprouts.
Parents calmly listening to the child's anxious behavior without alarm and continuing to act naturally will create the feeling in the child that the concerns are unnecessary.
Mother. If the father loves both the new sibling and is careful to love the older sibling and continues the normal routine without being affected by the child's jealous behavior, the child will become normal.
Jealousy will not occur. The main point that needs to be taken into consideration is to ensure that the child does not worry about losing the love of the parents and the people at home.
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