One of the leading factors in the destruction of romantic relationships is relationships established outside of marriage/relationship. However, unfortunately, this crisis can be managed by very few couples, or few couples experience a change in behavior after the crisis.
Research shows that more than half of the relationships collapse as a result of this crisis. Another research information shows that two-thirds of women and half of men who have marital/extra-relationship relationships do this behavior in the first 5 years of their marriage (Lawson, 1988).
Risk Factors:
Sex Addiction: Dissatisfaction with sexual intercourse in marriage may cause attention to be directed towards a second person and It may increase the possibility of cheating.
Alcohol/Substance Addiction: The use of stimulants such as alcohol and substances can reduce the feeling of shyness. Therefore, a person who does not plan cheating behavior when not under the influence of the substance It can easily exceed this limit under They may be more prone to exhibit cheating behavior in their romantic relationships.
Psychological Problems:Some personality disorders risky increase the likelihood of individuals exhibiting cheating behavior. For example, for narcissistic personality disorder, it may express a sense of entitlement and satisfaction for extramarital affairs. Therefore, cheating behavior is actually normal for them. Likewise, it can be said that people with bipolar disorder or borderline personality disorder are also in the risk group.
Personality Characteristics: Trust problems, avoidance of attachment, emotional distance. It can be seen that individuals who have self-confidence problems or lack of self-esteem tend to cheat.
Relationship-Based Risk Factors:
Communication breakdowns are one of the biggest risk factors
Broken emotional bond
Financial problems
Physical and/or emotional abuse or neglect/Disrespect
Skin discrepancy
However, all these risk factors do not mean that cheating behavior will be exhibited or not. In addition to each risk factor, the underlying elements form the building blocks of cheating behavior. One of these building blocks is not meeting the emotional needs between couples.
Not meeting emotional needs is one of the most common problems. This problem actually occurs because spouses avoid communicating and expect their needs to be understood without expressing them. If we wait to be understood without expressing our wishes and needs clearly and clearly, it will be no different from expecting our partner to read our mind, so we will not be able to achieve results.
Another building block is to escape from problems.
Escape from problems is an important factor for individuals' commitment to each other. Distrust in sharing problems and seeking solutions is a difficult process that alienates partners from each other. Although avoiding problems does not seem to affect the couple much at first, over time the accumulated problems become a pile that is difficult to handle. Over time, this leads to unhappiness and dissatisfaction. In a relationship where there is unhappiness, commitment cannot be expected between partners. Cheating behavior is also seen in individuals who are less committed to their partner and relationship. Revenge is a frequently seen behavior in conflicts in marriages where there are commitment and communication problems. Couples who cannot communicate well and have healthy bonds turn the conflict into a conflict by trying to solve their problems by taking revenge. This behavior, which is quite unhealthy and aims to break existing ties, causes one of the partners to turn to different pursuits.
As can be seen, cheating behavior has more than one sub-factor. Each factor alone constitutes a deceptive behavior. It may not be possible, but the headlines mentioned are the harbingers of a difficult process that alienates couples from each other and does not create an opportunity for them to express themselves. The solution is in the hands of couples only.
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