Becoming a mother and father is a process that begins with the birth of the child. It is a brand new adventure where you try to understand them, try to include them in your life, and most importantly, introduce yourself to new adjectives. Let's draw a road map for your adventure by sharing brief information about each age so that you can help you a little more in this adventure, so that you can understand more easily who your children are. First of all, it would be more useful to start our adventure by understanding your one-year-old child.
Can you understand how a year has passed? The common answer given by all mothers and fathers is "NO". Because children's development progresses very quickly in the first year and families have a little difficulty in adapting to this pace. That little baby who comes home begins to walk quickly, begins to say words one by one, and now he is making an effort and communicating. Your little baby who comes home has already acquired many skills in a short time like a year.
As your 1-year-old child starts walking, he is in a period where he says, "I can do anything, I can experience everything on my own." During this period, the child's belief that his initiatives are hindered is one of the main reasons for the deterioration of children's communication with their parents. To prevent your communication from being disrupted;
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As your child starts learning to walk, removing objects that may pose a danger,
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Showing every place he can experience. ,
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To support him, but to stop him at points where he should not do it by telling him the dangers in a determined and consistent manner,
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To move him towards the behavior he can do. Guidance is among the attitudes that will make your job easier.
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The toddler begins to discover his independence. This is the biggest indicator that your self-confidence is starting to improve. What I am trying to say here is that as your child becomes more active, the urge to be self-sufficient begins to flare up, and this urge activates your child's desire to be independent. For this reason, your child's sense of independence It is important for him to pay attention to the attitudes of his mother and father in order to develop his mind in a healthy way. By mixing them up, supporting their opportunities to explore, being consistent in the things they shouldn't do, clearly indicating their boundaries, giving guidance without dominating, praising them when they do well or making an effort, playing games together, respecting their private space, allowing them to spend individual time, sometimes just by checking in from afar and letting him deal with his own negative experiences; You can have peace of mind that you have laid the foundations of raising an independent and self-confident child in a healthy way and that you are on the right track in your adventure.
Now, how to support your child's speech. Your child's developmental areas do not all activate at once; they progress sequentially. If your child started walking first; It means that he will have to wait for the walking phase to reach a certain level before he starts talking. When he starts talking, the opposite will be true. One of the most frequently asked questions is "Are there any factors that affect the age at which your child starts speaking and the age of language development?" is the question. The environment in which children grow up, genetic factors and your child's gender are the main factors that will affect the age at which they start talking and their effort to talk. Taking these factors into consideration will help anxious parents calm down a little more. However, on the other hand, it is also useful to remind that you should never refrain from supporting. However, you should always keep in mind that you need to recognize the subtle difference between being supportive and worrying and making your child feel it, analyze it correctly and act accordingly. If we talk about what you can do to support;
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When your child is trying to tell you something, support him so that he can explain it verbally,
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When he asks you for something, support him in expressing himself verbally rather than using body language,
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Read plenty of books,
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Talk by making eye contact n,
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Stay away from technological devices while spending time with your child,
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Listen and memorize children's songs,
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Listen to him patiently when he makes an effort to talk,
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Make him feel that you notice his effort.
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Every child speaks, the important point here is that parents apply the right methods correctly and take into account the individual differences of each child.
Everyone is born with their temperament, and our characters develop over the years as environmental factors affect temperament. Our temperament can be affected by environmental factors only to the extent permitted by the temperament, but only in the face of the determined and consistent attitudes of the mother and father. We examine temperament in three groups: easy temperament, slow to adapt (sometimes referred to as pushover temperament) and difficult temperament;
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Children with easy temperament: Easily adapt to innovations. They have characteristics such as being friendly, sociable, communicating easily, and adapting to collaborative work easily.
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Children with difficult temperaments: On the contrary of children with easy temperaments, they cannot easily adapt to innovations, they are not enterprising, they are fixed-minded in their decisions, they are not enterprising, they cannot express themselves easily.
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Children with a pushover temperament: They fall into the group that we always say "come on" and call "heavy blood". They have characteristics such as: They want to do something but have difficulty in taking action, they move slowly when trying innovations.
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Knowing your child's temperament is important in the areas where you need to support your 1-year-old child. It will make it easier for you to file and shape him based on his temperament. You must have the right attitude so that right and healthy personalities can grow.
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You should exhibit attitudes appropriate to your temperament,
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It's more about your skills than your temperament. You should not overload,
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Development speed You should shape it according to his/her wishes and needs,
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You should choose light supportive toys suitable for his/her age and temperament and pay attention to this while playing together,
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Give him/her the pleasure of sticking to routines and gradually breaking the routines,
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Give him time to confront the problem he is facing,
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Let him express himself to you. While waiting, support him with your gestures and facial expressions,
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Let him discover his own interests and share them with you,
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Support as much as needed in new environments, then move away gradually,
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Do not criticize in front of others,
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Do not exaggerate when giving positive reinforcement. ,
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Respect his/her private space, respect it so that it will respect you,
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Create safe environments for it to be active,
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Try making plans together,
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Do not instill self-confidence beyond your age,
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Be with your child as much as he needs while he is discovering himself and establishing his personality, make sure that he has fun and invites you, and that you, too, have fun while watching your child. Enjoy the moment!
As the last area of development, the cognitive area; Children at this age enjoy things that we do not understand, they do the same movements over and over again, they read the same book over and over again. Because your child learns by playing, your child learns by experiencing, and in every movement and action, he experiences something different from the previous one. He examines, imitates, observes, repeats; because he thinks and experiences the world. As he progresses as an egocentric, he can establish simple cause and effect relationships with the experiences he has gained for a year, find simple reasons when perceiving events, and gradually begin to perceive intellectual concepts. As parents, you can help your child in the process of discovering the world by;
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As a correct role model, By talking to you,
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Listening to you,
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Asking questions� By giving correct answers,
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Reading a lot of books,
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Doing puzzles,
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Playing memory cards,
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Playing language development cards,
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Explaining with pictures,
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Doing dramas,
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Doing sports,
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Integrating with nature,
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Listening to music,
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Playing an instrument,
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Bringing together with peers,
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Allowing them to set goals,
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By adding them to your daily routines,
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You can support him by giving him opportunities to use his language,
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By playing various and different games.
***While doing these, they should be aware of the rules and limits. There are two things I want to explain here by using the words rules and limits. First point; What I have emphasized over and over again since the very beginning of the article is the determined and consistent behavior of the mother and father. The second issue is; Constantly supporting a child just because he is good in one area and showing everyone his success in that area only shows your child's skill development in that area and prevents their development in other areas. For this reason, of course, he should be able to engage in activities in the field he is good at and even provide support for his further development, but he should also know that he should focus on other areas and that he should develop within the limits appropriate to his age, and this is the healthy process for your child's development.
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