Anxiety, which is one of the main points in life that takes us away from being ourselves, is a difficult phenomenon that needs to be controlled for all of us.
We are afraid of losing our job, then we start to worry and our thoughts take over our minds. This time, without knowing what to do, we constantly try to use our ability to act with thoughts. We cannot even do our job properly, because we worry about the fear of losing and do not leave ourselves space to gather our minds. As a result, loss occurs due to not being able to come to our senses, not being able to finish what we started, and in connection with this, not being able to express ourselves properly and determine our boundaries correctly.
We are afraid of losing our relationship, when in fact the person who is loved and admired is our own self, when we step into a new relationship, we start to move away from that self. we start. However, the point that is missed is; We are still the same person and believe me, we have not changed at all. We only guided ourselves according to the person we let into our lives. So why? That person liked us the way we were, so why did we start to present ourselves differently? Or did our attachment to the person we brought into our lives increase and we started to experience anxiety in our relationship, afraid of losing them? In short, anxious thoughts took over our minds and we started to become someone we are not? Well, we were able to keep this up to a certain extent, and then it exploded. Why? We can only last up to a certain point, and then, driven by the anxiety of losing, the self that is cornered tries to assert itself. With this anxiety, we react strongly and loss occurs.
We are afraid of losing our family, we keep death concerns in our minds at all times, but we are careful to put them in a safe place. So much so that when this situation happens, we sometimes reach the point of not being able to accept our grief to the point of not even being able to experience it. At this point, anxiety appears as a concept that suppresses behavior and is not functional. Because no matter how much we move forward with the anxiety of losing our family while they are alive, we may not be able to enjoy our limited time with them to the fullest because we repress it. Afterwards, anxiety not only does not make it functional, but also causes regret and as a result, loss occurs.
We are afraid of losing our friends, we experience anxiety while socializing. After a certain point, we become unable to keep up with and tolerate the things we were able to keep up with in the beginning. We now react to things that we would normally remain unresponsive to, and this creates the opposite effect. While we are afraid of losing, we act with the concern of establishing good relationships in socializing and not losing our friends, the result is the same and the loss occurs.
We are afraid of losing ourselves and then we start to live an anxious life. Imagine a self that constantly criticizes itself and moves forward with guilt, how tiring it is... However, how many of us can live our lives carefree as a self-confident, down-to-earth and self-confident person? If we live with this anxiety throughout our lives and do nothing to break this chain; The same thing happens to our self and loss occurs.
Carefree life is of course a utopian thing. However, remember that it is up to us to keep it at a certain level and control our anxiety as much as possible...
Shall we start the day by meeting ourselves, loving ourselves and accepting ourselves as we are, and saying hello to an optimally anxious self?
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