Being ambitious; It is an important reinforcing element for a person's motivation, more active work, and increased success. Excessive ambition in education, family, business life, private life or relationships can negatively affect a person's life. While ambition can lead a person to success if managed correctly, excessive ambition can lead a person to a negative emotional state.
After losing the game he played with his friends, the child does not accept it and becomes angry, a student cries because he got 95 while asking for 100 in the exam, wanting to beat everyone in the exam and being first. The person who wants to work day and night to achieve this, the pressure of parents who want their children to study constantly by saying "Let my child be the most successful student", the employees who take on more than the workload by constantly working overtime at work voluntarily, although what they do may seem like success, the excess ambition behind it is in the person's life. may lead to negative situations. For example; The feeling of being better in business life, getting a promotion, winning the employer's favor, feeling that other people will not take him into consideration if he does not get promoted, or being overly ambitious with the desire to surpass his rival, allows the person to see the slightest mistakes, while allowing him to react more to the events and to himself or others. It can turn into harmful destructive behavior. The best friend of too much ambition is stress. A person who is in a state of endless ambition is not satisfied with his achievements, he becomes more ambitious to be better and faces more stressors. Being overly ambitious may also be accompanied by stress-related disorders. In addition, neglect of personal life also leads to neglect of home and family life.
The roles given to the child from birth are one of the factors that play an active role in shaping the child's adult life. Situations where successes are praised and the effort behind failures are ignored, comparisons such as "You should pass this section", "You should get the best grade in that exam", "Look, that friend of yours got this grade, you did not", "I will be very upset if you do not pass that exam", etc. Discourses such as these ignore the child's efforts and focus on success and achieve success. If this happens, it may lead to the fantasy that one will be loved and appreciated. Likewise, in adult life, it can turn into a desire to work constantly and be appreciated in return, and the person experiences a feeling of dissatisfaction no matter how hard he works or how successful he is. Although ambition is not an emotion on its own, it also contains many negative emotions underneath. A person can align his own value with his achievements by attributing his achievements to his own identity. While you feel more competent and valuable with every success you get, you may feel personally worthless in case of failure. Narcissistic personality traits can generally be seen in people who are overly ambitious and become demoralized in case of any failure, desire to be the most successful, desire to do every job completely and perfectly, align everything accomplished with their own identity value, and refuse to accept failure or even the slightest mistake. .
Although being ambitious is a factor in being successful, it is not the only factor. Acquiring the right knowledge for the job to be done, creativity, determination, imagination and believing that you can do it are also important factors to be successful. When one is ambitious, the only priority is to achieve success no matter what. Although efforts are made to be successful in jobs that are done with determination and blended with imagination and creativity, this desire does not cover the whole of their lives, and the effort and effort spent on the work done is very valuable. Therefore, whatever the work done, success should not be the only goal, the effort spent on the work done should also be appreciated.
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