We mostly get married because we think it will meet our dreams and we always expect it to last a long time... However, as time goes by, everyone who is married knows this, it becomes clear that there is a huge difference between the person we were dating and the person we marry. It takes 2-3 years to understand this. A few more years to be sure, 2 years to see if it will get better, let's push it a little, here we are, 10 years of marriage and we have decided to end it, we will see.
Personally, I believe that both getting married and ending the marriage after marriage I am one of those who understand how difficult it is. After you have established a certain order for a long time, it is really difficult to make a move to break it.
You have to think about everything, even more than you did when you got married. Custody of the child, school, sharing of household items, real estate owned… But who will take the dog?
Who will notify the families? There are those who know about the noise of fights, and those who do not. Who will eliminate the words 'You should try again, my child'? Who will apply for divorce? Whoever applied could not receive compensation. Really? No, no, that is a fallacy, there is no such thing. If both parties want, you can resolve this in a very short time, even without a lawyer.
Sometimes I do this, I accept the events that did not happen as they have happened and see how I feel. If we were divorced and felt like this; Is everything getting better? How do we feel? .That's right, we are talking about finalizing an agreement that lasted years and remained on paper, and of course it needs to be rehearsed.
You feel like a widow - even though your ID cards now say single - there is no shirt to iron, no picking up socks, he cheated. They don't have the paranoia of whether or not they cheated, what their mother said or what their father did, no money spent on beauty masks, no one setting quotas for football matches, no 'you came late' jokes, no boredom of going to bed with the same person at night - while this may be overwhelming for men, it is mostly for women. It is a sign of peace and trust - no one interferes with the weekends, so there is no...
Isn't it beautiful actually?.. then suddenly you remember why you got married, which pushes you into complex emotions. You'll be back to where you started again. Can we fix it? Maybe 1-2 more years... It means wasted years... If you've been married all this time... If either of you are thinking of divorcing someone, there is no point in prolonging it. I'm not sure why the past generation got married, but I can understand my own generation more or less.
Social pressures and traditions come together and start to rule your life, and you find yourself getting married so you can go to bed the way you want. Without getting to know him too much, without getting to know him.
While flirting; In that limited time, we always talk about nice things and chat, as if it will continue like this for the rest of our lives. Nobody in those meetings; He does not want to talk about the fact that he is a messy person, that his hair is falling out, that he has a neurotic mother, that he is infertile, that he goes to coffee shops, that he snores, that he is a clean freak, and that he does not want children. Because these may make you lose your lover. In fact, if there is something to be taken more seriously than marriage, it is dating. It brings us back from mistakes.
I have two friends who are expecting a baby right now. They did not do it like me and did not have children immediately after getting married. After time passed for various reasons, they thought about having children. And they did it well. Congratulations. Both because they will have children and because they made the right decision.
Marriages that lasted for years are a thing of the past. The current generation is no longer in favor of making concessions. Thus, they cannot be very durable. Financial difficulties, personality conflicts, family disagreements shake the foundations of marriages that are not very strong. Maybe we should first learn to be honest, then become individual, prove that we have grown, show that we can break out of that cocoon, and most importantly, we should succeed in not experiencing things we do not want by basing everything on traditions and customs. Marriage is an institution that is highly approved and even challenged in society. They don't want to know that people's lives are damaged by wrong decisions. This is how we begin to lay the foundations of an unhappy society...
Let's fall in love, let's love, let's talk about everything, get married, let's try, let's not ruin our lives if it doesn't work...
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