When a little girl becomes a young girl, then a woman, and finally a mother, the words "Motherhood is a perfect feeling" come from her lips. There are "buts and wounds" following the sentence that never comes out of your mouth. Nobody talks about their difficulties.
Everyone believes that when they become a mother, they must be the "Perfect Mother". They look at Soayal media mothers. Everything is always great, they are always laughing, they are always happy. However, the facts are not as they seem! Both the mothers who come to my clinic and the mothers I talk to at seminars and congresses talk about those wounds.
''It hurts so much while breastfeeding, I want to scream, but screaming makes me a bad mother''
' 'I still can't believe that he is my child, but I know I shouldn't think like that'.
''After he was born, I couldn't stand the fact that he would never leave home again. I can't remove it from my life anymore. There is a creature that is always attached to me and I need to be attached to someone, this makes me feel like I am drowning. My freedom will end. How soon after birth will he/she be independent? I'm ashamed to say these, but I feel this way.
So why aren't these difficulties explained?
There are many adjectives that are socially attributed to motherhood. ''Motherhood is sacred. A mother vomits blood, says "I drank cranberry sherbet", "A mother should always love her child endlessly, mothers should be strong in every situation"...
Why do mothers feel guilty when they talk about these difficulties?
all While trying to get used to being a mother in the face of these burdens, a woman feels "inadequate" when she cannot meet society's expectations. She does not talk about these wounds, thinking that all mothers can have these qualities, but she cannot.
How can I get rid of these wounds?
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Every mother's story is unique to herself. Do not hesitate to seek therapy counseling, dear mothers. Getting counseling does not make you weak, on the contrary, it shows that weakness is as much a part of being human as strength.
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Some wounds. It is just a process and it will pass.
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Some wounds leave scars, but there are also beautiful aspects of living with scars.
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Mothers, what you can't tell me You can reach us by writing about your wounds, maybe we can heal them together. Why not, right?
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