What does this feeling mean, which sometimes arises while we are raising children, sometimes while doing our job, and sometimes in our friendships?
Our world of emotions is like a vast universe... The essential thing that makes us who we are... From the moment we are born. We are born in our own center. In our complete and pure state, our identity begins to be shaped over the years by social and family pressures, restrictions, and the positive or negative experiences we have had. Let's remember the moments we lived in during the periods when this identity of ours was shaped and we reacted as a pure organism. I tell you, 'Everything was great back then. If I ask, 'When was this for you?', the answer the majority of people give is 'Sometime from your childhood.' Those are the times when you are not yet exposed to pressures and many factors, and those pure reactions and emotions are experienced openly. Those are the times when you are crying, perhaps because you are hurting, or perhaps just to attract the attention of your mother, who is too busy with her work, and say, 'Oh, what is there to cry about!' Periods when you have to suppress your original emotions and are alienated from being yourself. Every suppressed emotion squeezes the creative energy within a person and causes the person to become alienated from himself. Let's look at that moment when you felt inadequate; your child is crying. No matter what you did, you couldn't silence him! You are exposed to the gaze of your spouse and relatives. However, you did your best, but it still didn't work. As a result, you felt inadequate. Just like the feeling you get when everything is great, when your parent doesn't appreciate you no matter what you do... You went to a lot of trouble to prove yourself and get approval, and you barely coped with the difficulties, but you still couldn't get approval because you couldn't reach perfection in your parent's eyes... Here it is. This feeling of inadequacy is your feeling and experience from those times, this is a feeling that continues in your adult life and actually increases as you think that all the responsibility is on you and strive to achieve perfection. It is a feeling that always makes you feel the presence of the false umbilical cord with your parents and fulfills those responsibilities in the most magnificent way. A feeling as if it will end if it is brought to you. Even if you have not had good companions in your life journey, In adulthood, you are the parent of your inner child. That little child who always expects affection and approval and deserves mercy... Instead of bullying him and ignoring him; It may be time to listen to their needs. What did she want to be? If she were to start over again, what kind of accompanist would she want to have with her? What kind of life would he be living right now if he had his new accompanist with him? How would she experience her emotions? How would he express himself? What would their wishes and desires be? What does it need right now to achieve these?
Let's listen and let your own parenting light your way in this life's journey..
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