DO NOT JUST APOLOGIZE FOR YOUR MISTAKES
Mistakes are inevitable in our marriage. Even if everything in our lives goes great, mistakes will be made towards each other due to the differences that come with being men and women. For this reason, it is almost impossible to avoid mistakes, but one thing that is possible is to prevent our marriage from wearing out in the face of mistakes. We must express our regret for our mistake, but just expressing it is not the solution. We must display a few positive behaviors in the face of our mistake, and then our spouse will believe that we truly regret our mistake. In addition, these positive behaviors will bring relief to your relationship.
DO NOT NEGLECT SEXUAL LIFE
It is seen that the importance given to sex decreases in couples from the first years or even the first months of marriage. When we look at the reasons, we see many reasons such as busy work life, home life or taking care of children, etc. No matter how difficult our lives are, sex is as necessary for the human body as bread and water. If the body cannot meet this need, it will not be satisfied with its marriage and some negative behaviors such as anger, anger and sudden reactions will begin to be exhibited in couples, which will damage our marriage. Let's not forget that sexual life is one of the main veins that nourish marriage.
DON'T BE A SACRIFICE WIFE
If self-sacrifice has turned into constantly compromising ourselves, if we say that only our spouse should be happy and my happiness does not matter, this will harm our marriage rather than benefit it. Just as there should be a measure of everything in marriage, there should be a measure of sacrifice. If one party is always self-sacrificing, that relationship will cease to be a love relationship and turn into a mother-son relationship. For this reason, we should prioritize our individual happiness in our marriage and realize our own value. When you realize your own value, your partner will also begin to see your value. That's why we say in every matter that life comes first and life comes second.
DO NOT LET YOUR WIFE BE THE CENTER OF YOUR LIFE
One of the mistakes our couples have made in recent years is to neglect the people in their lives outside of their marriage, such as spouses, relatives, friends... they do. live They share every happy, sad, exciting, good or bad moment with their spouses and children, that is, only with their nuclear families, and over time, the spouses realize how limited they are and begin to suffocate in their marriage. In addition, when couples make their spouses the center of their lives, they begin to expect everything from their spouses. At this point, the spouse who has difficulty meeting expectations begins to be constantly blamed, but when we spend quality time with other people in our lives instead, we will ease the burden on our spouses at the point of suffocation and expectation from marriage. As expectations decrease, happiness will increase.
MINIMUM EXPECTATION MAXIMUM HAPPINESS
If we constantly expect the other party to make us happy in marriage, we will harm both our marriage, ourselves and our spouse. Think about it this way, if we pray to God to give me 1 kilo of gold, we won't be happy if half a kilo of gold comes one day, but if God says my prayer would be accepted, we say if it was a kilo, but if we don't pray at all, how would we be happy if a quarter of gold suddenly comes to us because we had no expectations? . We should apply the same in our marriage. If we have expectations, we cannot be happy with the little things our spouse does and we start blaming him, but if we notice the little things and become happy and express this, we will have the opportunity to see bigger surprises from our spouse.
YOU WILL BE SELFISH
What is selfishness? It's always me, it's always me, isn't it? The selfishness we want in marriages is first me and then you. The happier, more cheerful and more successful you are as an individual, the more happy, successful and smiling spouse you will have. You can think of it as a reflection. It is a fact that no individual will fall in love with a person who has given up on himself, lives constantly for others, does not take care of himself, and is not aware of his own value. Even if this marriage continues, it will continue like a roommate. Our goal is to preserve the love of couples, so everyone will first think of being the steward of their own pleasure.
EXPERIENCE THE EXCITEMENT TOGETHER
Instead of making your marriage ordinary over time, try experiencing weekly and monthly excitements. put the marriage It is an indispensable part of Rome. When couples experience excitement together, the feeling of excitement is relieved by each other at certain intervals and the couples do not seek new excitement. Try to maintain your excitement in every situation, from your daily life to your sexual life. If we can manage to maintain the excitement in our marriage, dangers will not knock on the door of our marriage.
TALK ABOUT WHAT YOU ACHIEVED TOGETHER IN YOUR LIFE
Couples are moving towards escape, that is, divorce, because they cannot find peace with each other. Peace is a feeling felt by couples who make a family a family and keep it together. Therefore, when couples spend time together, instead of constantly talking about their pessimism towards life and their inability to achieve success, they should talk about the successes they have achieved together, even if small, and express that their biggest success is their spouses and nourish each other's hearts with their tongues. Life will smile for us again the day we realize the beauty we have.
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