What was empathy? Empathy was understanding! Putting yourself in the other person's place!
It was to try to understand the feelings, thoughts, feelings, desires, wishes and needs of the other person while putting ourselves in the other person's shoes!
I put myself in the other person's place, what will happen? This is how I live! some might say.
Actually, for this job, we have to go all the way to the beginning and start from there.
So from childhood…
Children who have been given responsibilities appropriate for their age, who have felt really listened to and understood, and who have been given the opportunity to show the courage to ask what they have in mind, can be individuals who can establish “Empathy” when they become adults.
To be able to make an effort to understand the other person depends primarily on understanding ourselves.
From recognizing oneself in understanding...
Knowing one's self, positive or negative, strong or weak, cute or unpleasant.. Being aware of oneself and one's self in all aspects. In addition, knowing these will provide the person with an easier and faster coping skill or strategy.
After knowing and understanding myself, I will get to know the other person.
I will try to evaluate it in all its features and its own story. Later I will witness that I have already understood and that many knots have been untied.
Of course, this system may not always work in such a perfect order. At the point where it doesn't work, we need to be able to go back and ask ourselves the right questions. Sometimes it can be a good thing that it doesn't work. It can make it easier for us to see and realize the missing, faulty, faulty side.
Who am I?
How do I feel?
What do I want?
What do I expect from myself?
What will I gain by understanding the other person?
Feeling better
Feeling of acceptance
Communicating healthier
Feeling of importance
Feeling safe
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Problem Solving ability
Solution-oriented structure
Social relationship skills
For more empathy;
Listening
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Listen to the other person effectively. Using verbal or nonverbal expressions indicating that we are listening with gestures, facial expressions and some bodily movements, asking questions about the subject (curiosity), giving feedback
Be Open to Different Ideas
Different kinds of books, learning a new language, discovering new cultures, tasting new tastes, a new hobby, meeting new people
Think - Wait - Speak
Straining what we say sometimes in our head, using traffic lights to stop and think at red, filter what we think in yellow, and speak if we feel ready in green
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Know Yourself
Write down what you like and dislike about yourself, keep a diary, review your strengths and weaknesses, accept yourself as you are, what you feel and what you do from time to time. What do you do when you feel good?, What do you do when you feel bad? to review your questions.
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