Where does the feeling of jealousy stand in your life? How jealous are you? Can you deal with jealousy? If you want to constantly control your partner, if you constantly think about where and with whom he is, it would be useful to ask these questions to yourself.
Destructive events that occur as a result of jealousy are the news that we frequently encounter on the 3rd pages of newspapers and social media. So, what is jealousy? Why be jealous? Is jealousy a way of showing love? Freud stated that even normal jealousy should be considered an irrational event and that such an emotion is not under conscious control. On the other hand, jealousy is a complex psychological experience experienced with the belief that a person or a relationship that is not wanted to be lost will be lost or is under threat. It is an emotional state that we can describe as negative. It is a pathological form of behavior that is generally observed in individuals who see themselves as inadequate and worthless, whose sense of worth is affected by external factors, and who have low self-confidence.
We face different forms of jealousy in our lives. We are likely to experience this feeling towards our siblings or parents in our childhood, our friends in our adolescence, and the experiences and spouses we did not have in adulthood. What is important is our ability to cope with this feeling.
No matter how much the saying "The person who loves is jealous" is common in our daily lives, jealousy that is not in moderation will cause our relationships to wear out and become destructive. Jealousy is one of the biggest causes of marital problems and divorces. The story of Othello, one of Shakespeare's favorite characters, and his wife Desdemona reveals the consequences of jealousy. Othello and Desdemona have a great love. However, his wife Desdemona loses the handkerchief, which was Othello's first gift to his great love. Othello suspects his wife has lost the handkerchief. Iago then prepares a conspiracy. He convinces Othello that his wife is having an affair with Cassio. Othello kills his wife and Cassio out of jealousy. Shakespeare As Re explained, jealousy ended with death. This story is defined in medicine as "Othello Syndrome" (pathological jealousy).
Healthy jealousy is a situation that we can call the spice of the relationship. Emotional partners want to trust each other and be sure of their commitment to each other. When they are sure that they have provided this security and love, they get caught up in the routine activities of daily life and begin not to appreciate love. Therefore, romantic jealousy causes individuals to review their relationships due to the emotional anxiety it creates. It reminds spouses of their values to each other. That's why a dose of jealousy experienced from time to time will have a positive impact on the relationship and will keep the relationship alive.
People have different methods of dealing with jealousy and jealousy. Women often evaluate emotionally and react passively. Although they display a more constructive attitude, they also display an approach that gives up their own wishes and subjugates them. Men, on the other hand, evaluate it physically and react more aggressively. They usually try to achieve results by threatening or using violence. If jealousy is a problem for you that affects your relationships and psychological health, it is very important to identify the factors and triggers behind the emergence of these emotions and to realize which of your needs are not met when you feel these emotions so that you can cope with these emotions. If this problem has become an issue that you cannot overcome individually or as a couple, getting psychological support will help you cope with the problem you are experiencing.
LOVE looks through the telescope, JEALOUSY looks through the microscope. (Josh BILLINGS)
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