The fastest growth and development periods in human life are before birth, the first years after birth and adolescence. Adolescence can basically be defined as the period of transition and change from childhood to adult life. It may be difficult for the adolescent to adapt to the suddenly accelerated and disproportionate growth. Clumsiness may be common during this period.
Adolescence is a period in which physical appearance and body image become very important, and various problems are experienced due to changes in hormones. During this period, the adolescent wants to be liked and attracted by the people around him, but on the other hand, he may perceive himself as "ugly" and "inadequate".
Troubles Experienced During Adolescence
Especially earlier and later than his peers. Adolescents who mature late may experience problems during this period. One of the most important elements here is the communication between the adolescent child and the family. A family environment should be created that allows the child, who must have a healthy communication, to express himself, and to convey his problems to his family. Mother and father should also be aware that communication should be two-way. Since communication conflicts increase during adolescence, the family may not know how to act at times. During this period, the child may naturally tend to defy authority and break strict rules, if any. Instead of using the 'you language' in conflicts, the family should be able to accurately express to the child how they feel in such situations. When we use the language of you, communication will turn into conflict and power struggles. Now let's try to understand this by giving an example from frequently experienced events.
Example of Trouble During Adolescence: Your child is disorganized and reluctant to tidy his/her room.
Reaction: One day. I have a lot of work to do during the day and I may have to do it when you don't tidy your room. I expect you to tidy your room, and I get upset when you don't do it.
By approaching this way, the parent reminds the teenage child of his responsibility and gives feedback on how he feels when he doesn't fulfill it. No blame or anger; on the contrary, they are cooperative and solution-oriented. There is an approach.
Adolescence Case Study 2: He is reluctant to go to bed at night and is stubborn about not sleeping:
Reaction: When you sleep late, you cannot get up in the morning and I'm worried that you'll be late for school.
If respect, peace, love and compassion prevail in the family from the moment of birth, the child will go through adolescence, which is called the stormy period, with fewer problems. A child who has a home environment and parents where he can communicate healthily can also share the problems he experienced during adolescence within the family. He makes no compromises to gain acceptance in his relationships with his friends; because he is already valuable in the family. There will be emotional ups and downs during adolescence, what is important is the child's ability to cope with this. Giving birth to a child is a genetic trait of ours, while being a parent is an endowment that is acquired, changes and develops over time. Being a good, competent parent who can meet the needs of their child is an art to be learned in this process.
Dear mother and father,
The 80's and 90's era in which we were born and raised has now changed. . We are currently in a digital era that has just begun. We must act according to the child-rearing rules and conditions specific to this period.
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