They are events, experiences and experiences that occur suddenly while progressing in the smooth flow of life, turn human life upside down, threaten the person's physical and psychological integrity and spiritual balance, and that the person has difficulty in overcoming emotionally. These are situations that cause terror, fear, anxiety and helplessness in the person. If a person perceives that he/she has encountered a real danger or threat, has been physically harmed or witnessed it, and has felt extreme fear, helplessness and terror during this time, this situation is defined as a "traumatic" experience for the person.
Trauma. It is a sudden blow to our life references, on which we base our existence, in a way that we cannot be prepared for, no matter what we do, at an unexpected moment. It is a state of timelessness that disconnects us from our past and future for a certain period of time (depending on its severity).
Whether an event creates a traumatic effect or not depends entirely on the person's perception of this event and how negatively this event affects his life, emotions and thoughts. . In this sense, trauma is a personal experience and different people have different reactions to different events. Events can affect people in different ways. An event that is traumatic for one person may not be for another. For this reason, it is necessary to look at how this event affects the person emotionally, rather than whether it is traumatic or not.
In general, psychological trauma, situations that create stress, damage the sense of security of the person's life, loved ones, and belief systems, and cause despair and loneliness in the person. and makes them feel that they can be harmed at any moment in a dangerous world and makes them vulnerable to danger.
REASONS
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Domestic violence
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Separation and divorce
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Job loss
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Rape
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Traffic accident
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Sudden illness
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Physical, emotional, sexual abuse
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Physical and emotional neglect
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Natural disasters
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War
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Terrorism
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Economic crises
WHAT ARE THE SYMPTOMS?
Where the person lives experiencing the trauma over and over again in his mind
Flashbacks (scenes showing the past)
Nightmares
Thoughts about the trauma that come to mind during the day and cannot be stopped
Presence of avoidance behaviors
Conversations about the traumatic event and avoidance of memories
Avoiding activities, places, and people associated with the traumatic event
Inability to remember an important part of the traumatic event
Decreased interest and participation in daily activities
Feeling disconnected from other people, different and withdrawn
Difficulty showing emotions, numbness
Sudden crying crises, feeling helpless and hopeless
The feeling of overprotecting loved ones, being afraid for them and securing them
Showing signs of physical arousal
The body gets triggered when the traumatic event is remembered
Excessive arousal
Sleep problems (insomnia)
Anger, anxiety, guilt
Difficulty concentrating
Trauma is not only coded in the mind, behavior or emotion. It remembers how our body reacted when trauma was experienced. In some cases, scenes, moments or experiences that are suppressed by our mind and difficult to retrieve by our memory are remembered by our body. Carefully looking at our body's reactions gives us very important information about the trauma we experienced and its aftermath.
For example, a girl who was physically and emotionally abused in childhood may experience relationships that abuse her in the same way in adulthood. He may choose as lovers or spouses people who verbally abuse him, beat him, or do not care or value him. In fact, we would think that a person who was exposed to such events in childhood would gravitate towards the opposite people in adulthood, but the opposite is usually the case. The reason for this is the desire to write the end of one's own story differently and to come to terms with the abuse experienced in the past. is his reason and his drive. By putting himself in cycles of trauma and abuse similar to those he experienced in the past, the person tries to gain control that he could not achieve in the past and this time to put an end to this cycle. The person also tests beliefs such as "I am not safe" and "I am not good enough", which he developed based on past traumas, in new traumas. For this reason, I experience the same trauma with new situations and new people.
COPEING SUGGESTIONS
WHAT CAN I DO FOR MYSELF?
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Give yourself some peace
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Think about your strengths (don't try to look strong)
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Ask for support from family, friends and relatives
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Set goals for yourself, no matter how small, that you can achieve
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Determine your priorities and use your energy and resources for these priorities
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Take time for yourself to rest and do physical relaxation exercises
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Imagine that you are having a normal reaction to a normal event (think that the situation you are experiencing is abnormal, not you)
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Remember that you are not alone
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Apply for help from an expert
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Never neglect yourself and stay well. be nourished
Traumatic events are very common in our culture and do not discriminate between people. That's why both women and men, people of all ages, races, social classes, religions and countries can be exposed to trauma.
WHEN TO GET HELP?
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If you have been exposed to a real threat and been harmed or witnessed it directly and felt extreme fear, helplessness and terror during this time
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You frequently recall and re-evaluate memories of the event. If you act as if something is happening
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If you have a significant loss of interest in everything
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If you are moving away from people and feeling alienated
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If these symptoms cause disruptions in your personal, social and professional life
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If these symptoms continue after 1 month
You are free from these vortexes, these negativities. you can get rid of it. Make an appointment now with a professional who can help you.
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