We encounter some situations more frequently in the clinical context in marriage and couple therapies. Such as communication problems, loss of respect/conflicts on disagreeable issues, insecure attachment, jealousy and anxiety about being cheated on, closing oneself to the expectations of the partner.
In my article, I will touch upon common problems, regardless of whether they are men or women (of course, gender may differ significantly in certain situations). Although the subject is subjective, it is thought to be beneficial to the reader due to common problems in the clinical context.
Arm wrestling: The couple is in a show of power in most cases, regardless of the content of the subject. Sometimes, there may be an instinct to just be right and to embarrass the other person by proving them wrong. When viewed from the outside, one might wonder why such an attitude is taken, because there is a couple in question. However, if the foundation of the relationship is already damaged and there is distrust and lack of understanding between the couples, it can be quite possible. On the other hand, personality traits, temperament and other dynamics that people bring from their past can be a factor in this.
Elimination: One of the couples has a problem, there is no need to have a problem, they can find joy. or he feels the need to tell about any event he experienced, and naturally he turns to the person he shares his life with and chooses as a spouse. His wife is neither at that moment nor there. He pretends to be religious, but he's actually not that interested. He may think that the other person will not notice this, but he may be wrong. Because a person who is eager to explain this can easily sense this.
Insecure attachment: What individual individuals bring from their past, especially the dynamics with their parents in their childhood, makes them more vulnerable. Not being able to fully reflect positive emotions and attitudes towards the partner due to the effects of subsequent relationships. There are types such as anxious and avoidant attachment. In such attachments, the person puts himself/herself in a chronic tension and unintentionally creates an obstacle to a healthy relationship by reflecting negative energy to his/her partner.
Couples should reach out for all the help they can to overcome such problems. There are useful videos on the internet. Many books provide information on these subjects. It reminds me. We live in a time of abundant access. Relationship and marriage therapies are among the services that can be applied if the problems have become chronic and cannot be solved. Ultimately, what is important is to live life more enjoyable and peaceful.
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