The Latin name of the hymen is "Hymen". It is also known as hymen ring, virginity membrane, hymen. It is a thin structure located 1-1.5 cm inside the entrance of the vagina. The hymen is not an organ and has no functional function. The socio-cultural dimension of the hymen is more prominent than its anatomical structure. The structure of the hymen is different in all women, and the hole in the middle has different sizes and structures. The location and structure of the hymen is different in every woman. Depending on the structure and shape of the hymen, the amount of bleeding after the first intercourse may vary. The structure of the hymen is hard and thick in childhood. It prevents germs from entering the vagina until the age of 11-12. With puberty, its consistency becomes softer and more flexible.
The hymen is a symbol of purity and untouchedness in many societies. It is thought that a woman with an intact hymen does not have sexual intercourse. In developed countries and today, the hymen is losing its former importance and meaning.
The first sexual experience is very important for a woman. The hymen serves as an anatomic barrier during sexual intercourse. It is an incomplete and incorrect information that there will be both pain and bleeding when passing this barrier by the penis. Unfortunately, young people have to struggle with many fears while having their first experiences.
I have been practicing gynecology and obstetrics for many years. My experience is that a normal hymen, under ideal conditions, during and after the first sexual intercourse experience; It does not bleed, does not tear, does not pierce, does not burst, does not cause pain or suffering. During the first sexual intercourse, if the lubrication is complete and the woman is in a relaxed and relaxed state; There is no pain or bleeding in the hymen, only stretching. Because the hymen does not pierce, bleed, tear or burst. It is very common for parts of the membrane to remain on both sides of the vaginal entrance in case of opening. But there is no irritation, if the woman tenses herself, there may be pain. Light spotting-like bleeding may occur due to strain and irritation. However, the pain and suffering in this case is not unbearable. The most important thing to remember is that the vagina can stretch enough for a baby's head to pass through. Blood There are only three or five drops of pink colored drops. The most common hymen is the ring-shaped one. It allows menstrual blood to pass through the middle. If the hole in the middle is very large, it will easily allow the penis to pass through. These membranes are called flexible hymen.
If the hymen is thicker than normal, has high edges, or has ruptures in the vagina, bleeding occurs a little more.
During the social development process, while raising girls, concepts about sexuality always regress. We have put it in the plan. The sanctity of the hymen is explained. Society consciously fosters this in order to keep young girls away from sexuality. The first sexual experience is very important in a woman's life. Every woman has to surrender or postpone or avoid sexual intercourse due to pain and bleeding. Self-fulfilling prophecy; Even if it is not appropriate, when an expectation arises, people try to act in line with their expectations. Ultimately, expectations come true thanks to a magical power. The fear of the first night settles in our hearts. If there is no understanding and loving spouse, this prophecy is about to come true on the first night.
Unfortunately, some men in our society do not believe that the girl has not had sexual intercourse before, until they see the blood on the wedding night. Because most people think bleeding is a good indicator of virginity. In other words, if a young girl who is thought to be having her first sexual experience does not have bleeding after intercourse, it is believed that she has already lost her virginity. That's why thousands of our young girls who are getting ready to step on the path of eternal happiness by wearing wedding dresses, what if there is no bleeding?' He is worried. If the hymen ruptures! If it hurts so much! If I bleed a lot and lose blood, I have to go to the doctor! If I get too worked up and get stuck with my wife! Many girls enter the first night full of anxiety, with negative questions and false myths in their minds. We have many girls who were taken to the doctor and examined the next day because they did not bleed on the wedding night. A gynecologist will give the most accurate information about the hymen. The hymen is flexible and may not bleed. Since there is no deep tear going down to the vagina, bleeding may not occur due to damage to a non-vascular area in the membrane. If bleeding occurs, the bleeding stops within half an hour. If this bleeding continues and if it increases, a gynecologist should be contacted in case of an urgent vaginal tear. Men actually experience the anxiety of the first night. He enters the bridal room with the burden that all duties and responsibilities are his. The anxiety level is very high. She is worried about bursting her hymen and completing her task as soon as possible, until she thinks of a loving and soft sex. Did he give the bloody sheet to those waiting at the door? the whole problem is solved.
Young girls' vaginal muscles are weak. They have little ability to stretch and become rigid during intercourse. In this case, it further exacerbates the feeling of pain and pain. Kegel exercises are very important to strengthen the muscles of this area.
The main causes of pain in the first night are; Not enough stimulation, the woman not feeling ready for the relationship, the state of nervous tension, the man's panic and performance anxiety cause that beautiful night to turn into a ball of fear.
Every organ in the body has a function. The penis will grow and harden. Just as there is no pain while enlarging and hardening, why should there be pain when taking the penis into the vagina? However, if the wrong work is done, there will be pain and soreness in the vagina. Ultimately, we must change the negative thoughts in our minds. Thoughts will affect our emotions. We hope that good feelings will be reflected in our behavior and we will have healthy, happy and safe first night memories….
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