One of the most fundamental and root concepts in the formation of personality is 'identification'.
While some characteristics of each of us are stated; We have often heard expressions such as "He does this job just like his father, he treats people just like his mother did." When we look at the background of these expressions, we see very clearly the role of identification with the parent in the early childhood stages, when the child begins to realize his own separateness:
Although the feeling of uncertainty, abandonment and absence is extremely difficult for the child, every child certainly experiences It is one of the basic feelings that one can and should experience to some extent. The child has to create certain reference points to cope with these emotions. In other words, he should be able to feel that he exists in this world and, by focusing on these reference points, he should be able to experience that he does not 'exist' - that he is alive - in real life.
At a more primitive level, where he is not yet aware of his own self, the child's main reference point is the mother (or a different caregiver). ) is. He constantly smells the mother's familiar scent, hears her voice and touches her. In his contact with this center, he 'exists' in the world, there is no uncertainty.
In later stages, the child has to adapt to the situations of being separated from the mother, depending on his autonomous development. In these stages, the child must complete the task of coping with the absence of the mother, the uncertain world, and the pressure of the feeling of abandonment and loneliness. As a result, the child begins to create an image (representation) of his mother in his mind as an effective defense. In other words, even if the mother is not really with him, the mother image he creates in his mind continues to nourish him spiritually. At the same time, the child begins to get used to the short-term absence of the mother while functioning independently.
As he develops an increasingly increasing and expanding image of the mother in his mind, the child's self-care and emotional comfort functions develop. In other words, the child activates the image of his mother as an effective defense against the challenging feelings of abandonment and loneliness in life and becomes 'his own mother' for certain periods of time. Identification begins at this stage.
In other words, the child struggles with the difficulties in life like his mother and analyzes these processes like her. ~In later stages, the child begins to become aware of his sexual identity and genitals. s. As his perception of his own self develops, he is able to categorize himself with other people around him. As a result, 'generally' the boy identifies with the father and the girl child identifies with the 'mother'. For example; The daughter dresses like her mother, does her hair like her, and experiments by wearing her mother's high-heeled shoes. The boy tries athletic movements just like his father, and tries to lift materials like his father in heavy work.
This process continues in an open-ended manner, and the child develops his 'real self' by blending the individual interests and skills he has discovered with the identification he has established with his father and mother. '.
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