In such situations, there may be people who leave the meal unfinished in order not to disturb others, there may be families who interrupt their shopping and quickly run away, and there are even families who ignore their child's crying and wait patiently for him to stop talking and seem to be indifferent. So which one is correct?
Actually, all of these are very wrong. Children who cry in restaurants, on the beach, or throw themselves on the ground in the shopping mall are children who have put a remote control on their parents and have figured out how to manage them. It can't be long before parents remain indifferent to the crying child. Because even the people around said, "Why don't you pay attention to this child?" They put social pressure on. If you do what the crying child wants several times, the child will learn this method and will use it to the fullest from now on. This is difficult to reverse but possible. You must teach the child that he cannot get what he wants when he cries, before he even starts socializing. If you cannot teach this, it may be difficult to return.
Mom and dad need to realize that this is a problem first.
Such behavioral mistakes When it becomes very uncomfortable, the first step is for parents to review their behavioral strategies for their children. Sometimes families can say, "Our child is like this." In fact, the child becomes what his parents want and direct him to be. Children learn what they see and continue to practice what they are used to. Let's continue talking about the example, returning to the restaurant topic. You will have an easier time if you give your child the right to choose their meal at the restaurant. However, it is important to remember that they are actually still little people. Our children may not know how to manage their feelings of boredom. For example, we are at a restaurant, a certain amount of time must pass. If we do not share an activity that our child can occupy at that time, the child will start reporting the fire like a fireman's whistle.
What would you say if you saw the fire siren going off? “There is a fire, we are late.” Conscious parents prevent fires from breaking out. So how do we do this?
It will help us to prepare our child emotionally and intellectually for this idea before we even go to the restaurant. “We're going to the restaurant soon, You will choose your own meal from the menu, even different dishes may be available today. But you might get bored while waiting for the food. If you want, come and take the coloring book with you, we can color it together while you wait.” you can say to your child. This way, we can spend quality time with our child rather than looking around, playing with a smart and very smart phone, or watching a match on the screen. Otherwise, going out to dinner with the child and not paying any attention to him/her and sitting side by side does not mean spending quality time with the child.
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