Let me start from the beginning, this article focuses on the painful, sad, destructive and disruptive effects of personality. In this age where therapies for the dysfunctional aspects of personality are more promising, you should also know that you are not helpless and alone.
What we call personality is difficult. They say that a person is the same at seventy as he is at seven.
We talk about the social roles of many people around us, and sometimes we attack and injure these social roles; we confirm, repair, or want to be close to that role. The personality organization I want to talk about today may remind you of many people around you. Because of the possibility of gaining pragmatic gain from their predisposition to these social identities and their approaches, we sometimes direct our criticism directly towards the characteristics that make a person a person. There are various representations, illusions or soups of meaning about every phenomenon in our minds.
For example: The personality of the apple tree requires giving apples; The walnut tree also has strong roots due to its character, the grape vine spreads around it, and the leaves of the pine tree are like needles. Personality is the constant points where we differ from each other. In other words, kangaroos have pockets, ants have antennas, and birds have wings. But we should not perceive these as such harsh facts. Because the reasons that form a person's personality can also allow for change. These are examples given only to draw attention to distinctive points.
The belief that the dysfunctional and painful side of the personality will not change is now shaken. This personality can also be read as the type of parent changes, the environment and the modern world change. There is nothing constant, except change. The troughs are double, fixed-minded captains anchoring in the constants; teenage captains diving into storms for extreme change. I think we will talk about a change that is both both and neither. So, treatment of Personality Disorders is more possible. Now let's meet a stubborn personality:
Let's take a look at the OCPD personality organization characteristics:
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Rules , arrangements, cleanliness and neatness are characteristic features They are both: They use a more bureaucratic language. It's as if there is a curriculum and one should live according to the curriculum. This is the kind of feature we are used to seeing in post offices, it seems to be based on orderliness, assurance and not touching the meat and milk.
Before starting a job, they go into all the details of that job, and sometimes they have difficulty in starting the job even because of this detail. .
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Persistence bordering on stubbornness is a common characteristic of them: Their famous stubbornness overshadows even themselves. This is exactly what the goat's stubbornness part is used for.
They show great indecision in situations where decisions need to be made with intuition: This is where the problem lies, they have no emotions. In other words, emotion, which is air, water and oxygen to the personality, is very limited. Avoid getting emotional, excessive pleasure, or getting excited. He is a person of small luxuries.
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He has emotional restrictions. They have a perfectionist attitude: They have to please the jury members in their minds. Who or what is in this jury: Important people since birth, rules, culture, parents, parental ideals. Those who are definitely successful must receive a certificate of appreciation.
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They want to control themselves and the conditions they find themselves in: They have the toughness to command, to insist, to determine the rules of the game.
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They get bogged down in details. They lack skills such as establishing interpersonal relationships, laughing at events, and feeling warmth: It is impossible not to care. In short, they are obsessive personalities. Staying obsessed is an important occupation for them. We say that the teacher is obsessed with me because of the embodiment of our country's mentality of "tough dad", "dad who says 'hat'", "whatever the dad says is right" in national education. In the sense of being truly an ideal human being, it is a didactic profession. We can say that many teacher educators are a bit pro-establishment.
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They cannot compromise by compromising themselves. They have an authoritarian attitude and are devoted to their work and productivity: Work first. Work is much more important than family, love and lover. They cannot include people who do not have a job, and because of their judgmental attitudes, they are generally alone, as if they live in a legend of life in their clean towers where everything is under control. In fact, it can be called controlled unhappiness.
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They accumulate things and cannot get rid of them: Why can't they throw away these objects? Because they miss the feeling that that object reminds of. They are very tight-fisted and stingy: As in the joke about falling into the lake, you cannot say 'give me your hand', you have to say 'take my hand'.
Now let's open our ears, who should we play this game with? >It Must Be:
What you call a child SHOULD be like this. This is what you call a child.
This is what you call a woman. A woman should sit for this amount of time when she is a guest. etc
A friend should behave like this in difficult times.
They constantly use the imperative mood. because there is an eye on it and this eye approves it.
Cleaning Language and literature:
Everything has its place and time. .
It wasn't enough, I cleaned it with vinegar.
A house should be spotless.
I'm a very meticulous person.
I clean it at least three times.
Insatiable Control:
The desire to dominate everything, from phones to space, to the general moral rules of the house. The control pen is always in his hand. Sometimes he also uses it to sink.
Difficulty in Giving and Receiving:
They do not give, they always strive for a profit. Their conservative characteristics progress to being possessive.
Not trusting emotions:
Generally, the focus is on thoughts, as if the thought is more important.
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Fault ı Microscope:
It goes into more and more detail, meticulously, and as more and more details are taken into account, the tape becomes tighter. It's kind of like a swamp of details.
Business First:
Business, earnings, performance come before many things.
We can say that there is a situation as if one is experiencing the programming of an inner world that is afraid of being criticized, avoided and spared. These personality problems first affect the person, and then their loved ones, relatives and colleagues.
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