The most important factor determining human psychopathologies is rigidity, thinking with multiple options is always a life saver…
WHAT IS SOLIDITY? HOW TO THINK WITH MULTIPLE OPTIONS?
Psychological problems have emerged in different types and forms in the process that stretches back to the beginning of human history and has come to the present day. People who are called strong in the flow of daily life; They can be described as those who are the hardest in structure, who can establish authority, whose boundaries are very sharp, and who do not compromise their attitude. We can briefly call this situation rigidity, constancy, and acting with a clear pre-acceptance. Let's imagine that a person you care about suddenly changes and this situation upsets you very much. Imagine that you attribute this to yourself and that you find yourself in a problem related to your self-worth…
What you feel will always be anger towards the other party or accusations against yourself.
support while ignoring all other options. In other words, you may not be able to develop a different pre-acceptance for the other party as you personally perceive the change of that person. Or for yourself…
That thought pattern that is believed contains 100% anger towards a person, even yourself. At this point, if your ability to think with multiple options, which is the basis of the Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) school, comes into play, you can break away from the rigid thought and divide the heavy emotional intensity (eg anger).
Let's move forward by thinking with multiple options on the same example; You could also accept the change of the person you care about, or that it is a very natural process, that your life has changed, the order of importance has changed, that it is in a busy period... In short, if you put other options to consider in this situation, you will suddenly realize that that 100% anger is divided...
It should be noted that; There is no pure black or white in life. To be in balance is not to feel compelled to choose between two extremes. The cause, the responsible, the culprit or the victim of all the problems we face. It is essential not to feel like a lump. Solidity brings personalization to many things, and understanding that rejection of a person and rejection of an event is not the same thing is a must for healthy living.
Sincerely…
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