Ask any young newlywed couple how long their marriage will last and they will answer "forever."
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But statistics show that these optimistic young people are only fooling themselves. According to research, 40% to 50% of marriages today end in divorce.
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As a marriage book author and Family Counselor, I would like to state that; Contrary to popular belief, what needs to be done to maintain a relationship is quite simple. In short, you do not have to plan a costly holiday to please your spouse. So, what should be done to maintain the relationship?
Remember that Little Things Can Make a Big Impact!
Married and happy couples generally state that their spouses 'make them feel important and special'. , the same situation can be a completely utopian expectation for married and unhappy couples. Married and unhappy couples who frequently use the expression "You have changed a lot after marriage" may enter a spiral of regret and thinking about divorce more often. However, the little things you do or say to your spouse to make him/her feel that he/she is cared for, loved, and special are very important to keep your relationship happy and prevent divorce. 'Positive messages' in your relationship, for example; It includes actions as easy as leaving a surprise note in your partner's pocket or massaging their shoulders after a tiring day.
Improve Your Conflict Resolution Skills!
A balanced and happy relationship. Couples who are in a relationship are more kind to each other than couples who are unhappy or separated. The solutions to the problems that are likely to occur in every relationship are brought to the agenda in a more solution-oriented and calmer way in couples who have a happy and balanced relationship. Instead of seeing every problem as a problem that wears out their relationship, couples see every problem as a test that they must overcome to strengthen their relationship.
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The sustainability of marriage can be considered as the way couples handle the problems they experience. Therefore, improve your conflict resolution skills.
Create Common Interests with Your Spouse!
Common interests that you can enjoy doing with your spouse� � discover. Spouses cannot be expected to have common interests in every field and to enjoy the same things. However, having common activities that spouses enjoy doing together increases their happiness.
Learn to Forgive!
Learn to forgive each other. In every marriage, from time to time, spouses may exhibit behavior that can hurt or disappoint each other. In such situations, consider that no one is perfect. Also, remember this type of behavior you exhibit towards your spouse. This will make it easier for you to forgive. Remember that the negative feelings and thoughts in your mind can be reflected in your behavior and even affect the mood of the people around you, creating a negative electricity in the house. Your forgiving attitude and knowing how to apologize when necessary can influence your spouse and encourage him to do the same.
You can think of love as a flower you bring into your home. If you want the flower you bought with love to remain as beautiful and fragrant as the first day, you know that you need to take care of it, meet its needs, even talk to it, in short, devote time to it. Otherwise, your beloved flower will shed its leaves and wither over time.
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