People cannot choose their parents, names and siblings when they are born. They may prefer to live alone. By nature, they find themselves in a structure. The name of this structure is family. They first learn the requirements and needs of being human through love within the family. Mother is the symbol of compassion and mercy, father is the symbol of authority and trust, brother is the symbol of being close friends. A person shapes his personality by what he gets or doesn't get from his family and what he adds or doesn't add from the environment. Therefore, parents need to be patient and non-judgmental in raising children. This is a transaction in which we get what we give, the way we give; It gives definite results in the short term.
Whether it is to make them loving, to make them jealous or to make them a responsible person is completely in our power. We must act moderately to our children, we must teach them to be moderate. Our elders said that less of everything is harmful, more is harmful, and the middle is the decision. The saying "Let's not spoil by giving too little, let's not spoil by giving too much" is an excellent approach to finding balance in raising children. Your measure of love and closeness should be such that the child should be able to find support by feeling you next to him at all times and should be able to feel free when he does not see his parents. In our culture, women generally make the mistake of giving excessive attention and care to their children. Mothers who feel lonely in their marriage begin to devote themselves to their children, become overly attached to them, and may make their children dependent on them. However, children who are protected from all difficulties, overcontrolled, and whose problems are usually solved by their parents develop a passive, incompetent and insecure personality type. This wrong parental attitude is more common in parents who have children late, who are first-time parents, who have an only child, and who declare the boy as king at home. , is raised in a glass jar by saying "don't let him be sad, don't get hurt, let him have whatever he wants". Dependent personality trait is observed more frequently in children who always have their mother or father with them. Over time, the child may display this addiction towards his or her spouse. It can turn into young ones, called sucklings. An important point to consider is that while the child is still in his infancy, "Don't be spoiled, don't spoil the bond." Do not make the mistake of applying it incorrectly by thinking "it shouldn't be useful". Do not pay too much attention to the advice "If you hold your child every time he cries, he will become addicted." Because the more you raise your baby with love and attention in the first years, the more secure he/she will feel and develop in a healthy way.
Successful parents are those who sense the child's needs, respond appropriately to them, are not overly tolerant or strict. are parents who have a flexible approach towards the child, maintain a certain determination and continuity in their behavior, and always listen to their child's wishes before objecting. Again, successful parents are those who prepare the environment for their child's self-control or moral development, which means internal control, develop the child's sense of responsibility, leave them alone with the consequences of events, teach them the limits of their rights and freedoms, discipline themselves without turning the weapon of fear on their children, and They are people who provide opportunities for them to grow up as individuals who can express their thoughts freely. You can't make any child on earth a man by saying "you can't be a man"! Remember that every child's role and model is their mother and father. If the child does not become a man in your eyes, it is because you cannot be a man. These children do not learn selfishness, lying, being a hypocrite and cheating only from the streets... You cannot ask or expect something from them that you have not done. The child is the painting of his parents... I say, dear friends, that the beauty of this painting depends entirely on the painter.
We want things that we have not done or cannot achieve. We lie and expect honesty, we do not read books, we want him to study... It is possible to increase these. But first we should try to set an example for them with ourselves. Our responsibility does not end with us being instrumental in bringing them into the world. On the contrary, we need to continue as a true role model. Let's raise loving, compassionate children, dear friends..
Stay with love!!
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