Forgiveness is a concept that is easy to say but hard to implement. What we've been through like a fire burning inside us, what's been done to us, injustices...
They stand on the side of our minds. "I wish I could avenge myself one day, if the time comes." we expect. It's like a lion waiting quietly and patiently for its prey. Mystery...
We just know that every time we wake up to a new day, there is an event/person that exists there, that we have to spare some of our energy for, that occupies us in our minds... In fact, we are eating from our souls. something.
So when we look at that person, do we harm that person or do we inflict the greatest harm on ourselves? As if we could understand it clearly.
An inner restlessness, a search...
How much can one more thing to occupy our minds in this difficult life benefit us?
So, Is Forgiveness That Easy? Should Everyone, Everything Be Forgiven?
Paul Coelho, author of the famous work The Alchemist, says; “Forgive but never forget or you will be hurt again. Forgiveness changes your perspective, and forgetting makes you lose your lesson.”
Actually, this is exactly what we are trying to say. All the people you are offended by, who make you feel bad, are actually like forces that chain your wrists and pull you underground. br /> Forgiveness liberates you the most, it allows you to break the chains that are holding tight on your feet. It would be a big step for you to rise.
It allows you to see the world and life from a different perspective. In fact, it allows us to see the possibilities that are in front of our eyes and that may enable us to enter a new era in our lives.
Forgiveness is the best gift you can give yourself. It's about freeing your mind. You no longer have to wait in ambush. And now you can use your energy more efficiently.
What about forgetting?
We do not mean to forget, to ignore. Forgetting, pretending it didn't happen will cause you to make the same mistake over and over again and not be able to get out of the hole you created.
Forgiveness is not forgetting.
Forgetting does not mean forgiveness either.
Forgiveness brings with it the bitterness and sweetness of accepting whatever happened. The memories stay in place, but they don't hurt as much as they used to. When it comes to mind, maybe an “Ah!”
Forgetting is like saying nothing like this has ever happened in your life. It's acting like it never happened. It is to flee. It is to get rid of pain and bad feelings. We wish not to remember in times like these. "Let something happen and I'll forget what I've been through." we say. "Isn't there any medicine?" We go from doctor to doctor by saying. “I'll just close my eyes and open them and it'll all be over.” We want. Because it hurts to remember.
"Well, how far can we run?"
"How far can our breath carry these burdens?"
"In one place Don't we want to get tired?”
That's when we stop and get tired, the danger starts the most. Whatever happens, we find ourselves in the same mistake again. That hole has drawn us in again. “Let everyone treat me as they wish, and I will forgive them. Will that happen?” We seem to hear you say.
What happens when you don't forgive? Waking up every morning with the same pain, the same anger, and not enjoying anything will make life so meaningful?
Actually, not forgiving is an injustice to ourselves, not to the person or people we hate. It is something that negatively affects our mental and physical health day by day, like a faucet dripping drop by drop and filling a huge pool. Blood pressure, diabetes, migraine, chronic pain of unknown origin... It's a war we wage against ourselves! We can't know the other side, but we know that you know very well the damage your side has taken.
Imagine that being able to forgive frees you of all your burdens and breaks your chains and becomes free. Your heart is a free life, “Ah!” It must mean more than a lifetime spent with you. Come on. “Forgive…” not for him, but for yourself.
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