It is very important that we convey the rules and requests to children correctly. Because they take us as a model and treat us the way we behave. Here, we must first understand the child, depending on his age. When the child begins to walk and talk, that is, when he/she begins to become an individual, parents may think that the communication between them is broken. Here the child needs a parent who can understand his wishes, introduce the rules and listen to him.
What not to do in communication: We can say: getting angry, getting impatient, giving advice for a long time, breaking promises, being inconsistent with the rules, exaggerating criticism, making accusations, silencing the child... Such mistakes will cause the child to be disappointed, lose self-confidence, and damage communication. It is necessary to speak to children clearly and in short but descriptive sentences. It is useful to warn and be descriptive about behaviors that should not be done. In fact, what is important is to show that you accept the child for who he is, not for what he does or does not do. Another way to establish good communication with the child is to play games with him. The child expresses himself through play and reveals his inner world. A child who is appreciated by his parents for his positive behavior will feel happy and accepted.
Speaking through the language of emotion is also a valid way of communication. If you show your feelings to your child in a situation, he will try to understand and use this method to express himself. Children who are talked to and shown interest are encouraged to speak. Because their parents are models for them. They can solve problems by communicating. Empathy and listening, which are the most important elements of communication, are also very necessary. Empathy is an emotional partnership established with the child. Listening is being able to receive verbal and non-verbal messages.
A child who understands that his parents are listening to him feels loved and accepted. They feel relieved when understood. It causes the person who listens to feel close to him. Thus, continuity of communication is ensured. Children who do not rest for a long time may become withdrawn and engage in aggressive and self-harming behavior. They can believe it. Messages using imperative moods (do, do, shut up, etc.) also hinder communication. Instead of such accusatory and threatening messages, the approach in which the parent is with the child by empathizing is valid. As a result; When spending time with the child, it is important to give him our full attention. Talking with eye contact is an example of this.
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