We have mentioned that adolescence is a very difficult and troublesome period. One of the factors that increase this difficult aspect is the recklessness of adolescents to show risky behaviors. We can evaluate it in a broad class such as enterprise. We can attribute these behaviors to biological, genetic, personality and environmental factors. When we talk about environmental factors, the acceptance, love, respect and attention that the adolescent has received since infancy come to the fore. In short, we can prioritize the family factor in this period as well. Of course, other than family factors, some psychological disorders, neurological or psychiatric problems also affect these behaviors. This situation is extremely vital and it is important that you consult a professional who is an expert in this field.
The most important expectation of an adolescent is acceptance and understanding, just like an adult or a child. Families often make mistakes in this regard. Accepting does not mean giving in to everything, nor does it mean disrespecting the child's existence. Behaviors such as humiliating the child for his mistakes, belittling his achievements and efforts, trying to control him without caring about his own wishes and dreams, punishing every behavior, intimidating and threatening all mean rejecting the child. Acceptance means recognizing the good aspects of your child as well as the aspects that need to be improved, and trying to support him/her to improve himself/herself instead of getting angry or belittling him/her for this. When you don't do this, you will both reject him and seriously damage his self-confidence. Since the individual who was not accepted by his family during childhood feels worthless, he desperately searches for someone to accept himself and receive his love from during adolescence. He is not valuable and taken into consideration in his own eyes. He feels valuable when he hears that others love and accept him. This situation creates a huge risk if the adolescent is in the wrong environment and with the wrong people. A teenager who wants to feel like he belongs to a group even though he knows it's wrong may exhibit behavior consistent with group identity. This may simply be a desire to be popular among friends by disobeying school rules and teachers, or it may be behavior that may have more serious consequences, such as joining a gang, substance abuse or theft. The aim here is to gain acceptance in some way. It doesn't matter whether the behavior is good or bad. However, along with acceptance, being respected is also of great importance. Someone who thinks that he will gain this respect by fearing and threatening people prefers to resort to negative behaviors, while someone who believes that he will be accepted with his successes devotes himself to continuous work. By the way, both of them are wrong in terms of thought. Being accepted cannot be associated with either success alone or fear.
However, the adolescent individual, especially acting with a group identity, finds himself in a dead end after a while. Especially when an individual who has not developed a healthy identity (who am I, what am I, what are my dreams, what are my rights and wrongs) is in a group, he adopts that group, right and wrong, and fanaticism occurs. People who fanatically defend a structure no matter what and are willing to suffer for it are included in this group. Especially when malicious people identify these vulnerable young people and give them the respect, love and acceptance they need, they can manipulate them as they wish. That environment now becomes a family for the young person, and they can do anything to meet their needs in that environment. This may be membership in various gangs and organizations, or it may manifest itself in the form of team and political fanaticism, which we encounter much more frequently in daily life. For these people, any criticism or accusation made against the group they belong to is perceived as being made against them (adopting the group identity), so all kinds of extreme behavior can be observed.
Although these people sometimes understand and realize what kind of group they are in, they are no longer guilty of certain things. Feeling of severe depression and helplessness when it is too late With SSI, it can result in severe depression, alcohol and substance use, self-harm and suicide.
Thus, we see to what extent the lack of attention, acceptance and love in the family can reach. Please quickly consult an expert to guide you when you encounter situations like the above.
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