SEXUAL FUNCTION DISORDERS 2 – ERECTION PROBLEMS
“I have not been able to have sexual intercourse with my wife for 1 month, there is no erection. There seems to be no problems between us these days, but recently we went through a very controversial period. My parents live downstairs, and we live upstairs in the same building. It's been 6 years since we got married. If you ask if there is peace, there is no. My wife and my mother argue constantly. My mother gets involved in everything. When my wife answers, start a fight. Both my wife and my mother expect me to be on their side and support them. Now which one should I support? One is my mother, the other is my wife. I'm stuck in between too. This time I can't do either of them. There is no peace left when there are disagreements, fights and fights with each other. The last time, about 2 months ago, my wife went to her father's house after a lot of insults. A few weeks left. When things calmed down a bit, I went and brought it. Things had improved between us a bit. But even though I had sexual desire, we could not have sexual intercourse after returning from his father's house. There is no erection or it happens for a while and it disappears just as he is about to enter. I had it checked to see if I had another disease. I am only 34 years old. I have nothing.”
“I am 43 years old, doctor. I have been married for 17 years. My wife and I married with love. Over the years, with children and financial problems, my wife started not to pay much attention to me. I fell in love with a woman I met 6 months ago. We met occasionally, and there was no problem with sexual intercourse. I started to feel less desire for my partner. It wasn't like he was too fond of me anyway. We had sexual intercourse every 10-15 days. Then one day, while I was with my wife, my erection suddenly disappeared. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn't get hard again. It didn't happen again the next day, and the next day. My wife asked if I had a problem. I said no. But I sensed that you were suspicious. A few weeks passed and my wife caught us entering my friend's house. He got upset, cried, and said that his efforts were haram. I continued to meet the woman I loved, although less frequently. I was being more careful. One day, the same thing happened to me while I was with the woman I loved. No matter what I do, I have not had an erection since that day. I immediately went to internal medicine and urology. They couldn't find a problem. So I came to you”
“My wife completely abandoned herself after the second birth. She couldn't lose the weight she gained. I shave my hair and head so I can take care of the children. He even forgot to scan it. He doesn't take care of himself like he used to. No hair dye or nail polish left. Most of the time it happens that he doesn't take a bath for 3-4 days. I don't feel the same desire for him anymore for a while. We went to bed 15-20 days ago. I never had an erection. I glossed over it, but no, it doesn't work. Sometimes I feel that I have an erection in the morning, but when I try it with my wife, it is not possible.”
“It has been about 2 months, I have not been in a good mood since mid-October. Getting out of bed in the morning feels like torture to me. I'm late for work too. I have no appetite. I don't enjoy anything. Whether I lived or died, it makes no difference. Everything is meaningless. My sexual desire is also gone. While I've been trying to be with my wife for 1 month, I can't get an erection anymore. My wife also got suspicious: Is there someone else? Why is this happening? Don't you like me anymore? He comes at me saying: I couldn't explain my problem. When he put my stagnation and malaise on top of each other, he decided it was someone else. However, there is no such thing. I don't have eyes to see anyone. I wish I could die as soon as possible and be saved. I'm depressed, right?"
"Doctor, I have been treated for depression for 3 months. Now I have recovered a little, I feel better. But I have a problem, how should I put it? It's like sex is over. There is no desire and there is no full erection. Will these depression medications work?
“I have blood pressure, sugar, cholesterol, whatever you want. I have been a blood pressure patient for 15 years. Sugar has been on the rise for the last 2 years. After doing an analysis, it turned out that my cholesterol was also high. There's good and bad in it too. Good is low, bad is high. Finally they gave him medicine. Still, I'm in good spirits. They tell me that I am a very big man, I don't care about much. But this erection problem has started to bother me lately. About 2 years ago my erection started to diminish a little. I know, of course, it won't be like when you were 25-30, but it's starting to decrease. Little by little, now it's completely over. Even though I have sexual desire, I cannot get hard enough for penetration. After this age, I thought I would masturbate and watch movies to see if it would help, but it still didn't work. There were some medications, but I didn't want to use them without knowing or asking a doctor."
"I had a heart attack 4 months ago, a stent was placed. My heart doctor says there is nothing preventing me from having sexual intercourse, and that intercourse is free. A. But I'm afraid. I'm worried that I'll have a heart attack again during intercourse. I have sexual desire. "I want to try to have a relationship, but I immediately get excited and cannot get an erection."
As seen in the examples, it can be caused by physical diseases, medications used, psychiatric disorders such as anxiety disorder and depression, conflicts in interpersonal relationships, accumulated anger and many other reasons that cannot be listed here. Erectile dysfunction may occur. In each case, treatment should be directed towards the cause. First of all, it should be determined through detailed physical examination and tests whether the cause is due to an organic, physical disease. If there is an accompanying psychiatric problem, treatment should be given accordingly. Cognitive-behavioral therapy methods, which include information, may be useful in addition to couple or marriage therapy for those with interpersonal relationship problems.
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