BODY LANGUAGE
Body language is a subject that is very popular today, attracts the attention of many of us, has been turned into commercial interest by many educators, and is often addressed by some by categorizing it.
Essentially, it is body language itself. Although it is not an area of expertise, it is unfortunately difficult to understand why it has been used and materialized by some people. Dear readers, if you see a title such as "Body Language Expert", what you should question is where the people who received this title studied this department? Of course, if there is...
Such a department does not yet exist in any university in Turkey. Therefore, this is not a field. And the title of expert is unattainable. If you say so, is every specialization obtained through university? Although my answer is yes in an academic sense, my answer in a vital sense will be no. Because there is a concept we all know, and that is being "sarcastic". If a person performs a job in a qualified manner for many years, he or she can become an expert in the job. If the topic is a title, it can be obtained through university.
After the extensive introduction I have made, let me try to explain superficially what this body language issue is without delving into the depth of the subject. And of course, let me talk about the aspects that are used and misrepresented.
As you can understand from the title, I approach the subject as the language of the body. If you ask what has changed, when body language is mentioned, many patterns come to mind. If you stand like this, it means you are thinking like this. Phrases such as "If you do this, you are like that" are now concepts explained in "body language" trainings and seminars. reacts involuntarily. This is the same with the person I'm talking about. These are the times when the empathic system comes into play. When we are afraid, bored, or angry, our body gives involuntary reactions (outside of the human will). Tremors in hands and feet, sweaty palms, dilated pupils, etc. reactions occur beyond our control.
In these cases, our body sends messages to the other party. We can say that he is talking in a kind of abstract sense...
Frankly, this is the only scientific part of the work. Apart from this, the remaining parts are just cultural differences and subjective inferences. To give an example of cultural difference, the meaning of a hand gesture meaning "awesome, wonderful" in the USA and Canada is; In our country, "Are you gay?" It is a sign that represents the question.
As a subjective experience, I can share with you an event that my friend experienced and told me. The fact that the father, who is going to meet his daughter's boyfriend, squeezes my friend's hand so hard that he breaks it off during the first handshake can be considered as a message given by the father's body. But it is my main duty to point out this here. We cannot infer that all fathers do this. However, we cannot deny the fact that our emotions and thoughts direct our behavior.
Moreover, the subjective experience I mentioned or the subjective experiences given to you do not have any scientific basis. This is exactly the used side that I expressed in the introduction of my article. Body language should not be stereotyped. We cannot and should not make definitive inferences based solely on people's body language. However, there are some reactions that are physiologically based and it is possible to make healthy inferences. Apart from this, for example, if people stand with their arms crossed, we cannot say that they are closed to communication. If we say, we learn it as "being a flower" starting from kindergarten. How can the mentioned behavior be interpreted as "non-communicative"?
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