1- What is family syntax?
Family syntax is a group work. A person's problem is briefly discussed and representatives of the main people, emotions or objects that have an impact on this problem are selected. These representatives are not given many instructions, they position themselves and behave according to the emotions and bodily sensations they feel, just like in a theater play. It is a work done with very few words, often without words. The silence of the participants both turns people inward and increases the quality of the work.
2- How many people does the family group consist of?
It can be done in small groups of 5-6 people.
3- Can my family lineup know my past?
It is a bit utopian to describe exactly what happened to your ancestors, as in the series. People attribute a mystical meaning to the family constellation, there is no such thing. What happened is that in the past one of my ancestors was drowned/killed. In my knee, either the representatives or I experience things like shortness of breath, chest tightness. Like on the show, did that one drown? It is not realistic to ask, it would be fortune-telling. But comments can be made as follows: What could have happened to anyone that would prevent them from breathing? Could things like suffocation, cord entanglement, suffocation have happened to you or someone in your family? If it came, how did it come?
4-How is trauma transmitted from generation to generation?
Some traumas occur in the family, for example, someone dies. I throw it, he died by suicide. It's a disgrace to society. Then he ignores this death, does not mourn it. It cannot be spoken. After the dead are buried, everyone pretends that no one has died. If the pain of trauma is not contacted and spoken, it is passed on to the next generations. With a look, facial expressions, tone of voice and even genes.
There are epigenetic studies that show that our emotions are registered in our DNA and passed on to generations, just as our physical characteristics are registered in our DNA and passed on to the next generations.
Hitler. In studies conducted with concentration camp survivors, it was found that survivors saw and experienced the traumatic events they experienced in the camp as nightmares and delusions, although their grandchildren did not see them. p >This information is expressed among the public as follows: "His grandfather ate groats, his grandson's teeth dazzled"
7- Are only bad events being reported?
No. The positive traits in the upper generations are also transferred to us. For example, if someone's social aspect was good and able to influence people in previous generations, this trait is passed on to children and grandchildren. Or one of the upper generations used to play an instrument. In that case, this person may be more inclined to music than others. Because it's in the genes.
8- How do we make the choice in the family sequence?
There are neurons in our brains, which we call mother neurons. These neurons are used to read and copy emotions. In other words, he understands and copies the feelings that the other party feels but cannot express or cannot express. If a person is feeling shame and is suppressing it or not even aware of it, my mirror neurons pick it up in three seconds. If I'm going to choose a representative about shame, my brain directly chooses the person who feels it the most.
9- Will my life be saved if I join the family drama?
Both yes and no. Family constellation does not save a person from his problems in a single study. Rather, the person comes in thinking he has five problems, realizing that in the study he has 15 problems. This confrontation is not an easy thing. At first, the person feels worse. My knee is not affected immediately. A person starts to see the effect of a study after three to 6 months. Processing what he discovered in studies, also in individual therapy, and doing additional studies on it can improve the person.
10- Is one expansion enough?
It is not enough. A person has to spend a lot of time on his mental health. Every day he needs to do something for his personal development, read a book, maybe do additional work on what he has discovered in syntax or individual therapy. Healing in a single session or a single family constellation expansion is utopian. It's not real.
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